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30-35,
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writes: Im a gay girl and out, and 16 and so's my best friend (though shes not out). I love her and shes told me she loves me, but because shes not out, she is reluctant to try anything. I'm dying to kiss her and would love for us to be together , but i dont know how to go about it. Our mates call us a cute couple and she seems to like that, but she is reluctant for us to get together, we've never mentioned it. It really hurts and I feel quite rejected, what should i do? should I just ask her out or kiss her or something? I dont know, can you help me? Any responce appreciated, thank you :D
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (11 October 2009):
You have to take this slowly. Don't make any drastic moves. If she's not ready to come out, then don't push her. Keep talking to her, be patient.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 October 2009): Hi
Wow! This is a tough one. In my opinion, it is never a good idea to rush anyone into any sort of relationship and I would advise you to wait for her to come out of the closet (are you sure that she indeed prefers women).
Also, have you communicated your feelings to her? If your friends are already thinking of you guys as a couple, then it must understood where you stand (that is, much more than friends).
I advise you to talk to her about your feelings, about how it makes you feel, and how you would want to get together.
Along with that tell her that you are okay with waiting for her to accept it, but that there is a limit to patience too. Even after waiting for as long as you can, if your friend still seems reluctant, then you and I both know that there is nothing to do but seek love elsewhere.
Do not take any drastic measures to attract her, as she is also your best friend and...
Hey, kudos on coming out, it takes guts and at your age, it also takes an amazing degree of maturity.
Best of Luck
Love
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