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*yn123
writes:i have been txtinga man i met on internet for the last 7 weeks. early into it he said he tught he had alein love wit me. he txts me every morning all day and nite.he is vey thoughtful and every message is accompanied by him calling me babe and love ad is forever telling me that he is thinking of me. does this sound to anyone that he wants something more serious? he says sex is not most important thing fr him and that he respects me and will not use me for sex. does anyone think that a man would go to that much trouble of constant txting and telling me very personal things if he were only after sex? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2009): Hi
There's nothing wrong in meeting him, as long as it is in a public place. Also, please, make sure that you tell your friends where you are headed to, with details (ask him for them if you haven't already).
Also, ask one of your friends to give you a call within the first 20mins of starting the date (in case you want to bail out on him and this will give you a good excuse). And, really you only have to meet him, don't rush sex, take your time.
Best of Luck
Love
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reader, ffogalilly  +, writes (11 October 2009):
Take your time before you jump into bed with him, because it sounds like to me, he is just wanting sex.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (11 October 2009):
Well you can at least meet him, to see whether he presses you inot having sex. But take it very slowly. Don't let him pressurize you and please make sure when you meet him you do it safely.
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reader, lyn123 +, writes (11 October 2009):
lyn123 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhe has told me all about his past relationship nd has shown me photos of his kids and says heis looking for love. i am meeting him next weeked but now i am unsure whether or not to go thru wit it. if i dont what excuse could i give him as he is really looking forward to meeting me
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 October 2009): Hi
I agree with CaringGuy. Men cheat on their wives, they risk their rep, they hurt their children,they lie, they lead double lives, they spend amazing amount of time and money chasing women, so yes... txting constantly seems like a very small measure, don't you think. Also, be wary of online romances and always treat them with a little cynicism. It is a virtual world and it is very easy to change personality for anyone if they so wish. Meet the guy, and then form an opinion.
Also, I would advise you to not invest too much on what he calls you and how. And, before you question whether he is falling for you, ask yourself if YOU are falling for him.
Needless to say, that would not be very wise.
Love
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (11 October 2009):
Yes, a man would go to that lenght. Which is why it's inportant that you take your time getting to know him. I'm a little concerned that he has said he's fallen for you without meeting you, so be cafeful.
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