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writes: hi,im in such a confused state! i will start from the begining..in 2004 i got with a lad called David who was 18 (i was 21),we were fine 4 a while until i got pregnant and he said he couldn't handle it so finished with me,subsequently i had a miscarriage and got on with my life and met someone else called Steve,things were fine 4 a month with Steve but he was incredibly boring and i jumped at the chance of getting back with David when he came back on the scene in 2005,me and David carried on where we left off,all night sex spontanity! after 3 months i was begining to miss Steve so ended with Dave and got back with Steve as i realised i loved him. i've been with Steve properly 4 about 15month,were engaged with a baby on the way,however my cousin saw David and he said he still loves me and wants to get back with me. however has a girlfriend of his own! i can't get David out of my head,i do still love him but i'm having Steves baby,i'm totally confused,as steves not all that,now im totally stuck in a rut!can't stop thinking about Dave!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2007): You are attracted to Dave because he's exciting, and attracted to Steve because he's comfortable. One day you'll meet a guy who's both; that's the one for you. It doesn't sound like Dave can love you; sounds like he feels like you're exciting, too, or maybe comfortable, and he doesn't want to be the loser between two guys, but he'll never be a good dad for your baby (he couldn't even handle his own, why would he handle Steve's?As for Steve, just be honest with him. It's possible that your feelings will change for him someday, but why trap yourself in something wrong for you, and why tie up his heart when someone else could love him? Tell him the truth, and as long as he's a good guy, he has a right to the baby, as well.In the meantime, you're going to be a single mom, and your life is really going to change. Take care of yourself, and get some information about birth control! Then you can date people, and look for someone at once exciting and comfortable. He's out there!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2007): Follow your heart but you've got to remember that you've got a baby on the way. On one end of the equation you have got Steve who is your unborn baby's father but you don't love him so that doesn't work out. On the other end of the equation there is Dave which you love but has got a girlfriend. If Dave does love you he really should leave his girlfriend. If he does leave his girlfriend and get back together with you would he be able to love and care for your and another man's baby? If not then put them both behind you. If so and if you think that this time your relationship will work then give it another try. But remember to not worry if you decide to be on your own.
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reader, AskEve  +, writes (2 February 2007):
 It seems to me you want David for the sexual chemistry you had with him. You have to grow up! You have a baby on the way and Steve loves you. You said you loved him but you can't truly love 2 people at the same time (no matter what you hear.) You have to think... "what does David have to offer me and my baby?" "Would he make a good father?" "How would he even feel about me going back to be with him with someone else's child?" And of course "how would Steve feel if I told him I was leaving him?"
Only YOU can sort this out. My advice to you is to stick with Steve, he seems a really nice person and if the sex isn't all that then it's up to YOU to spice that up. ;o) It's entirely up to you love.
Eve
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (2 February 2007):
 Geeze Louise, talk about mixed up! You need to sit down by yourself and do some soul searching here. Sounds like neither one is right for you. When you are with one you think of the other. I don't think you truly are happy with either guy. I guess I would cut both of them free and keep looking for Mr. Right. Of course you unwisely have included a baby into this quagmire so Steve will be in the picture for the child's sake for years to come. But I wouldn't just settle for someone if didn't love them with my whole heart.
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