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writes:I suck at sex!!! I lost my virginity a week ago to this girl I love!!! It was brilliant! But... I didn't make her orgasm. I couldn't last long enough to anyway. Is this really bad? She's NEVER had an orgasm before in her life, not even made by herself. Does this make it harder for her to orgasm because its her first time? Or is it just cause i'm a premature ejaculator (not QUITE sure what this is, but I think I got the idea) Help me! Should I try and imagine something well gross whilst doing it to stop myself cumming so quickly? Do other men/boys have this problem? I really wanna give my girlfriend the best orgasm she deserves it! Thanks
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reader, just-ask-xx +, writes (6 October 2007):
 You do nt suck at sex, sometimes it takes a few tries to hit the right spot and I'm sure she had a good enough time without having an orgasm! ;) So don't be so hard on yourself!!! :) reply if you want to, love just-ask-xx
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reader, heartbrokenxx +, writes (5 October 2007):
 As I am one of these girls that "cannot orgasm" and it is possible that 1/4 girls cannot, or somethin like that! you shouldn't be so hard on yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2007): My wife's most intense orgasms are when I give her oral sex. She doesn't have an orgasm through intercourse unless I stimulate her sensitive spot at the same time. For her, it is her ear. I need to gently nibble on it and lick it until she has her orgasm. It can only happen in the missionary position. The other positions that we use are just for variety. Other women probably have other sensitive spots that turn them on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2007): For a lot of women it's not so much the arrival that's important, more the journey. If you follow my drift.
Okay, so you cum a bit quick. Most of us do at some time or other. But don't get downhearted - help is at hand here!
Give it about 20 mins to half an hour and have another go. You'll last a lot longer the second time around.
And despite basschick's assumptions, some women DO have an orgasm through penetrative sex. I know my partner does. It's all a case of hitting the right spot. This spot is called the 'G' spot - or Grafenberg spot to be precise - and it hides about an inch inside and on the front wall of the vagina, behind her pubes if you like. When you're in there, lean back a bit to exert pressure on this spot with your todger, ask her to tell you when you're hitting it and then keep it in that area, and don't shift about too much.
Of course, you can use your tongue on her clit if you wish, but my guess is you'll squirt all over the bedclothes if you're prone to getting a bit too excited too soon.
Keep practising - that's the fun part!
Phil
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reader, deejuliet  +, writes (4 October 2007):
 Basschick is right on. Very, very few women orgasm from pentrative sex alone. It is not that you are bad at sex, it is just the way women are. But concentrate on her first and THEN have intercourse and you will have it made. She will feel wonderful, both physically and because you have shown her how much you love her and then when you do have intercourse it will just blow your mind. Plus, if she has already had an orgasm she will be that much more sensitive and will enjoy sex even more and maybe orgasm.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2007): Is THAT how the Aussies do it? I've often wondered!
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (4 October 2007):
 Okay I am going to tell you something that will hopefully make you better in bed, and save you years of fumbling around, wondering how the hell women work. Number one, if you want to bring a gal to orgasm, forget about intercourse. She will most definately not have one during sex. You will. She won't. (Okay a few will, if they know what they're doing, but since your g/f is young, I would guess she hasn't a clue). I would recommend you delay even entering her at first. I'm gong to assume you know what a clitoris is and where it's located. If you want her to have the big "o" you'll need to stimulate this little magic button, with your fingers, or your tongue until she gets off. Think firm pressure. K? After she has climaxed (and believe, you'll know it)...Then you can focus on you and the act of penetration, which will make the experience better for both of you. Good luck.
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