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writes:Needing some advice here!! for the last 2 years i have been seeing my boyfriend, i am 18 he is 35, so obviously i was 16 when i met him. The problem is, how do i tell my parents???? i am not really close to them, and i have briefly discussed what their opinion is regarding age gaps and they have made it clear they would 'sort him out' and i take this as being a threat. i have been bullied at college, took the comments about the age gap. but we don't care, he looks and acts so much younger! we feel like in our head we are the same age. so what do i do??
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2007): hiya im in pretty much the same situation but i have two kids from a previous relationship who my parents are still very fond of, im 22 and my boyfriend is 38 (well the bloke i am seeing) weve been seeing eachother for nearly 2 years. my parents are exactly the same and im not too close to them either, i havent yet told them about my boyfriend but as we are planning to move in togeather ive got no choice but to tell them which im not looking forward to! ive spoken to my boyfriend about my parents and what sort of reaction they might give, he said as far as hes concerned we love and respect eachother were not kids and we have our own lives to live if they cant accept that then theyre the ones who are loosing out which i think is fair! so yes i say if your both happy and feel that your relationship is going to work and youve talked it through then go for it theres nothing better than being with someone you love and feeling close and secure to. love isnt exactly something that comes along every day so grab it with both hands and do whats right for you!!! good luck and hope it all turns out well xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2007): hiya there im in same situation my fella is 35 and im 24 and we have two beautiful children and have been together for three nearly four years and we love each other very much and in the begining no one liked the idea of me and him together my parents were really against it they kicked me out and made it clear that they hated him.i didnt talk to them for a while a couple of weeks and then they soon came round and wanted to make an effort and now everyone is friends and we all get on together,im not telling you to fall out with your parents but if you truly love this guy then you need to tell them.and if they dont like the idea just tell them that you respect the fact that thay are looking out for you but you are old enough to make your own mistakes and you like this guy but you just want to see where things go
hope every thing goes ok xxxxxxx
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reader, nurse nikki +, writes (7 October 2007):
thanks for the advice guys! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2007): Hi Hun,
I couldnt have put it any better than mulla hun Im 45 my fella is 23.. I lost my boyfriend just over 2yrs ago to suiside and nothing in this world matters as much as love sweetheart, if you are happy and are good to each other then no body should ever stand in your way and you shouldnt let them, If it wasnt for my man I wouldnt be the strong person I am today so you do what is good for you love as no one knows you more than you do TAKE CARE LOVE MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, pagan +, writes (5 October 2007):
 i was in exactly the same situation.
there is an 18 year age gap between my partner and i.
i was unsure of what my family would say, my dad wasnt too happy about it and my mum was ok. my mum gets on so well with my partner.
as you have been dating for 2 years now, you can tell your parents that he is honest and loving.
its obvious that he doesnt want a one night stand with a young girl.
tell your family and state that you are happy so they should be.
i had stick at college too e.g does he need viagra, do you carry his walking stick, is he saggy etc.
like you guys we took no notice and its the best way.
i hope you have a good life together, and i hope your family are happy :)
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reader, mulla +, writes (4 October 2007):
i dont knw how much of help this would be to you,bt its what i fink neway.
iv been in love with a gal for 4 years but she is not with me today as she died in my arms for years ago and i wouldve gave up my whole life for her and i mean that from the deepest place in my heart. if she was here wid me and she read ur question she would only say this.
if u love him and he is the only thing u want in lyf then nothing else should mater to u love only comes once in ur lyf so go wid it wen u have the oppotunity. u shudnt let nefin including parents friends age and position come in between matters of the heart, neway thats wot i fink gud luk to u hun i wish u all the best
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