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writes:I think i may have lost my girlfriend to a computer game called second life. we just broke up about a month ago. I didn't think anything of it until about two weeks ago. She spends every waking moment on the game for the last three months, ignoring her duties around the house, and me all together. I have speculated that she is has entered into a relationship with someone on the game, even before she and I broke up. she has become secretive and dishonest with me. We have remained friends, but i can only take so much of her lying. The other day she described a trip that she may be taking in the near future. She told me that she was going with her parents to California. I know this is untrue, she has been planing on meeting up with her second life "boyfriend" for quite some time.... I cant stand to lose my girl to a computer or an "avatar" help me, what should i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAfter stepping out for a while today i realized a couple of things. firstly, a virtual world cannot replace the real world, for me that is. secondly, i plan on living "outside the box" and she can enjoy her life in front of the monitor pointing and clicking and watching dancing avatars. I do not want to play second option with her in case her virtual life crashes, which by the way, i will not be responsible for. I don't want to play childish games like deleting her game, or "hacking" her accounts... besides, I have a very "real life" to experience...
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2008): well mate, it looks like you have already lost her. ive heard of second life and how easy it is for ppl to get hooked.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2008): there's really nothing you can do but confront her with your suspicions. If she already made up her mind she wants to meet her avatar boyfriend..then you have to break it up with her. If you love her, you might wait for that relationship to end and take her back. Either way..she's obsessed with the game and him and trying to change her mind is only going to push her further away.
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reader, PsyCookie  +, writes (22 July 2008):
 If you live with her, it's a bit easier to do. You could:
-Cancel your internet subscription
-There are ways to block computer access to certain people or block internet access. You just have to figure out how to do it.
-Sell, loan, or let someone else borrow your computer.
She may have internet/game addiction and it has to be stopped. Then when you do take her outside and let her see the joy of the real world. While at it, show her care and love so she can remember it back.
Good luck
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