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writes:I recently started seeing this guy, only it didnt happen the way it normally would, I already knew him because we dated over a year ago. Then I bumped into him last week and he said we should go for a drink sometime and I mentioned that I was having a house party and that he should come. So he came the house party and he told me he liked me and he kissed me and we ended up sleeping together (just sleeping not having sex), but he did try it on but I couldnt let it go anywhere because I'm not ready for that, I'm still a virgin and I dnt want lose it to just anyone, but now I'm a little worried incase he trys it on again, I don't want him to think I don't like him and I've lost him once before I don't want it to happen again. Please help!
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (20 February 2012):
 doesn't matter if you are dating.. it's very nen... and I don't even know any more what "dating" means.
in my day dating was not a reason to have sex with a boy...
going steady was.
but if you are a virgin then all bets are off and you should NOT give it up till you are ready...
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reader, mystiquek +, writes (20 February 2012):
 Look at it like this...if he truly cares about you, then he will accept and respect your boundaries. If he doesn't, then he's not worth losing is he? I agree with Denise32, for most guys, when a girl sleeps with them, they more than likely have it in the back of their mind that they might get sex out of it, so if you aren't ready for sex then don't put yourself into a compromising position. That way there's no way the guy can get the wrong idea. Guys aren't wired the same as us girls, and when we ladies are thinking "oh this is nice, lets cuddle"..the guy is probably thinking "ok, lets get to the sex". Its as simple as that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2012): I should probably mention that we are now dating, thanks for the feedback so far guys x
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (20 February 2012):
 He probably thought that because you were willing to sleep with him it meant you'd be willing to have sex.
Lesson: don't get into bed (or fall asleep on a sofa) with anyone when you do not intend to have sex!
You might try telling him you are willing to be friends - but no more than friends - and I don't mean "friends" with benefits!
If he still persists in "trying it on" then you let him go.
It's as simple as that.
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