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30-35,
*euben Sullins
writes:Well first thing we had what you would call an ideal relationship. We were talking about getting married and having kids. It was perfect. But one day she broke up with me because she said "Do you think we were better as friends" I said no i don't i think we are a really good together. Her response was "Can we still be friends." I said ok but by that time we were both crying. She said i just need some time to think. I said I'll give you all the time you need. So about the 3 day she said that her and her mom were going somewhere and i wouldn't be at school before you. I said alright. When i was getting ready for i started thinking mabye she said that just to go to kris's house. So i rushed to go to school. kris's house being on the other side of the street of the school was good for me to check on her. When i was Driving by i saw her at kris's house. i pulled up in the school parking lot and started screaming Amy. She came over with a smile and i said in a ferm way why were you there. I thought you said you wouldn't be here this soon. She got mad and walk away. She told me she just about made up her mind to take me back but that i just bloow it away. She said i had no chance of getting back with her. I think it was two days when she called me back crying on the phone saying i want you back. I'm so sorry Reuben. I said i would take her back then i asked her to marry me. She said yes. I was extremly happy at this point. Well everything was going really good. We were talking about having kids and opening a store together. Well after a little while she started acting deffrent. But it was very litte i didn't think nothing of it. But then she wright down in a note that she wanted to me to tell her why i loved her because for some reason i think your mind is playing tricks on me. That hurt me because when we got back together she said the reason she broke up with me because her mind was playing tricks on her. So i said fuck it. The next time i saw her i broke up with her because i couldn't deal with the stress of all that agine. We were still friends. But that night that she was going out with kris because he cought her when she was crying and to amotional to think. I was extremly pissed off at kris for doing that. I was getting ready to go to his house to stomp him in the ground, but she stoped me. When she did that i broke down in front of her and said what was on my heart. I told her even though I broke up with you i still love you. Her respons was "I'm sorry i just don't love you any more" Things colded down and she kissed me. Then she said i am going to break up with kris. But i want to make him thing i like him then break his heart. She gave me another kiss. We walked inside and for some reason she let me touch her and kiss her. I was confuzed about it but i didn't care because it was like we were back together. The next day i was hearing roomers that she was cheating on me with kris. So i asked her and she got pissed at me. So i letf it at that. Well later that day i got kris and Amy with me after school. Then i asked him some of the roomers i heard. I asked him with amy right there beside us. I said kris who took your verginaty. (she told me i did) kris said me. We both look at her and she walked off. I ran after her and asked over and over untill she started crying and then she said yes. So she lied to me about cheating on me and about me taking her verginaty. She lost it to kris before i meet her. I would have had no problem with it as long as she told me. Even before we started dating i told her i lost it along time ago. If she told me it then i wouldn't have gone off on her. But whats done is done. But the fact is even after all that i still love her. And even though this part about me talking to amy and kris thing happened today. And she want talk to me I did more for her than she will ever realise. The only the i ask from anybody reading this is for you to help me get her back or to help me make her relise lying about her life and the events in it is not a good thing. One more thing help me make her relise that cheating is not a good thing. I will try to talk to her in a week or two and everyone help me do this without me making her mad and cry. thank you ---------[Mod note: Thank you for sending your question to Dear Cupid. In the future, could you make it easier for the readers by breaking down into paragraphs - thus making it more "reader friendly" as we have done this for you]
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries  +, writes (17 April 2009):
 hun she don't know what she wants.i'd leave her she's already done damage no going back now she's with this kris thing.you seem a genuine guy but marriage this age?seriously you'd be divorced the next day and a business together?i don't think so.you need to just relax love life live your teen years and have some girlfriends.DO NOT take her back she's playing you for a fool.and the reason she keeps crying is so you will forgive her but don'twhat she's done is wrong and she knows it!she's crying to get attention from you and for you to think she is really sorry.but she isn't.she knows what she is doing and she won't stop she wants everyone to be on her side.and she probably enjoys the fact you get mad and stuff because you clearly still care for her.look just find another girla DECENT girl who knows a good thing when she has itbut don't rush with marriage.Hope this helps.chin up hun.
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reader, just wondering +, writes (17 April 2009):
She is in bad shape and you do not want her back. You and her are making each other crazy and she is in and out and yes and no cause she is still with the other guy. End it and find new friends and relax with marriage. settle down and wait for the right thing to happen and NOT with her
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2009): I'm so sorry sweetie, but I don't know if there's much any of us internet-people can do. I'm pretty sure she knows it's wrong to lie and cheat, so this problem seems pretty deep-rooted.I think the discussion you really need to have is why she did those things, and why you're accepting it. I love my bf almost as much as all life itself, but I would never accept a proposal at my age. Especially immediately following a break-up! Your information says you're 13-15. That's TOO YOUNG for you to be talking about this stuff.You intend to bind this girl to you for eternity at age 14? That's not fair to either of you.I don't think there is a solution--I think this girl is bad news. Sorry.I hope I helped at least a little bit.-GG
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