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writes:Hi,I just wanted to know people's opinions on whether looking younger than your actual age puts men off.I am 22 but I keep being told I look about 18. I have had two serious relationships in the past, both with guys a couple years older than me. I have been single for a while now and am quite confident (not overly confident). I have always had men look at me when I'm out (in a nice way) both when I'm single and when I was in relationships but have found it difficult to get any further than that since my last relationship five years ago. I have been on dates and been told I seem 'sweet and innocent' - not sure if men are just saying that because I look young.I know it's not a bad thing to look younger than your age, but I am 22 and am starting to believe that, at my age, looking young just makes you get treated like a child. I very rarely wear make-up and don't intend to (I never wore it when I was in the two relationships).Any advice would be great, especially from the guys. Thanks! Reply to this Question
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reader, Fatherly Advice  +, writes (1 March 2010):
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I'm much older than you, but I do have some experience that may be helpful to you. I'm guessing that you look young because you have fine skin. Small pores, no need for make-up, innocent face. I could be wrong about that. It is sad to hear that you haven't been in a relationship since you were 17. With the number of questions we get from young girls with boyfriends your age I would think you would be fighting them off. Some predatory men prefer younger girls because they are more easily controlled. It is good that you aren't involved with one of those. My wife has fine skin like I assume that you have, and it is a big bonus for me. She literally looks 10 years younger than she is. We are in our mid 40's and she is getting a bit of gray in her hair I'm mostly bald. Little gray in the beard (which I don't grow). When she dyes her hair ( a natural auburn) I get some pretty strange looks for being out with such a young woman.
I feel like I am telling you to wait a long time to reap the benefits of the body you were graced with. I think there should be plenty of quality men who would be interested now. Trouble is they are not thinking of the future, we don't often when we are as young as you are.
Quality men aren't afraid of a woman who can stand on her own two feet and challenge them intellectually and spiritually, and physically. In fact they like it. I wish I knew more about your background so I could give you more advice on how to hold a guys attention for more than one date. In the united states the methods would vary from north to south and east to west. The important thing is to give him a challenge to solve, a mystery to discover. Never give him everything he wants. And, make him feel good about himself.
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reader, Psychology101 +, writes (1 March 2010):
I think you maybe over thinking this one to be honest. I am sure it really means nothing and they are not intending to make you feel bad. You should be happy you are sweet young looking, you can be so many other negative things.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (1 March 2010):
It's all right. I'm 22 as well, and have been told I only look 19-20. And I'm dating an older woman and am having a great time. The point being that it will only be an issue to a man who cares only for looks. Don't worry.
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