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30-35,
*love49
writes:Me and my fiance have been together for four years. Where both seniors in high school. My fiance was layed off from his job and his money situation has always been tight growing up. Food, utilities getting turn off etc. My fiance is very good looking and he get a lot of females after him. I went through his phone and saw some texts from another girl saying how much she love him and want to be with him, and that she know he has a fiance she just wants to be with him. I got really upset and ask who she is. He told me he's using her for money, because she likes him. I got upset at first but then I got over it. He assured me he's not sleeping with her, he has hang out with her in the past, but they've always been in groups. Never alone, she's nothing serious. And that once he gets his new job he'll stop. I know she knows about me because on facebook it says who he is in a relationship with and I had him put an update on facebook saying how much he love me. and her response was "babe your so funny, jokes on me = ( " and then a couple of days later one of her friends went back and told her he has a fiance, and her response simply was "i dont care, i'm going to still love him" I know what he's doing is wrong but if she know he has a soon to be wife and trying to buy his love. Shes wrong too. Should I be mad at him?
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (1 March 2010):
 Nothing is ever certain in this world except for death and taxes.
You have not crossed the finish line yet and the race is still open . Until that day when he puts the wedding ring on your finger,then you can truly say you have won the race.
Anything can happen in that short space of time before the finishing line.
What kind of man would he be like if he takes the money of a girl and toys with her emotions?
Are you sure it is not the other way round?
That he was being manipulated by her through her money ? Jump doggie! Jump! Here is a reward $$$$ for you .
Would he report the truth to you or lie to placate your anxieties?
Now ,he is an unofficial freelance social escort and soon in time may graduate to be a gigolo.Who knows?
Never be too trusting about anyone and never give your all.
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (1 March 2010):
 You should be worried. Lets look at this from another perspective. Say he was a girl, and she was seeing a guy for money. What would you call that? He has a very loose moral code.
I'm trying to get a grip on your situation. He is a senior in high school and is responsible for bills, and food. You two are planning a wedding. Will he still be responsible for providing for dependents when you are married? Are you living together? Who is he provider for?
OK, back to the other girl. Rich people tend to solve problems by throwing money at them. Either she is using her money to make him obligated to her, or she is proving to him that she is better than you because she can help him, or she is using him as a prostitute. In any case these things are unmanning to him. It is likely to backfire on her, as he will resent that she has, by her gifts, taken away his pride in self sufficiency. He will resent being dependent on her. He already does. There will also be some damage to your relationship. You will trust him less and respect him less, and he will have confused feelings about his own worth.
Many guys these days will end up with a girl who will provide for them. They end up being drifters, jobless, existing only to provide her with pleasure. They lose sight of the old manly values. That is why you should worry that he is willing to use her.
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