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writes: Hi, I'm 16.H'm really depressed. I have never had a b/f. I haven't even had my first kiss yet. The thing is, all the guys I like either lead me on or do not like me back. It's really starting to affect my confidence because all my mates have em. But I feel so lonely. I know I should concentrate on my studies but I can't.I know this probably sounds really sad and desperate, but I don't really think I am attractive and although I'm bubbly and seem quite confident, I'm not inside..What can I do?please help mety xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2006): Trust me-you're one of the lucky one's. guys are majorly overrated. just read some of the posts on this site. they just make life 10000000000000000 times more complicated. i envy you
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reader, x Chrissy x +, writes (21 January 2006):
 Hey Ty, I know that it can be hard but just hang in there, I know lods of girls your age who dont have bf and are completely fine. Dont let this get to your self-estem. Just have faith that you will find a guy one day, and i suspect not very long from now. Try to keep your confidence up and dont let anything bring it down at this stage. It is important that you concentrate on your studies because when you get those great grades guys will be lining up to get a piece of you, so dont worry right now. Good Luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2006): hang in there. i know it feels like you're all alone, but you aren't. i felt so much the way you do when i was 16 ... it took years for me to realize it was the high school boys who were stupid. i felt like i never got the guy i wanted; i was almost 20 before i ever had a boyfriend, and that only lasted for 3 weeks. for what it's worth, though, several years later, things have changed - it's easy for me to meet guys and get asked on dates. it wasn't me that changed - it's just that the boys grew up and started paying better attention.
i know how hard it is at 16. you're doing the right thing, though - keep looking confident, and know that it's ok to feel insecure on the inside; it's part of being 16. try doing little things to get a better picture of who you are. try going somewhere for a few weeks with no mirrors. i did that right before i turned 20, and it was amazing how much of a difference it made in the way i felt. i realized i'd been putting way too much emphasis on looks; after that i was a lot less vain. try going out for a sport, or getting involved in some kind of group. most importantly, stop worrying about when you'll meet a boy or get your first kiss. i happened to get my first kiss in high school (sheer luck), but some of the prettiest girls i knew never kissed anyone until college. it's not as uncommon as it feels; you're not weird or behind. just hang in there - all those things will come to you in time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2006): hi ty
heres some advice
have faith in yourself find a guy who likes you for you
dont put yourself down about not having a b/f the perfect one will come and it will be worth the wait
hope this helps!! remember have faith in yourself
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