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writes: I've been dating this girl for almost 5 years now and I can say that she is fun to be with. We had our share of ups and downs for the past few years. But I keep on thinking about my ex-girlfriend, whom I've been with for 2 years before my current girlfriend. She (my ex) is one of my closest friends. I feel comfortable when I'm with her. She is funny, smart and cool. For the past months, I can't get her off my head. I keep on sending e-mails to her and keep calling her, instead of my girlfriend. I know my ex still has feelings for me. Since we broke up, she never had a single boyfriend, never dated anyone and her friends would always tell me she can't love another man other than me. I still love her, that's for sure. I can never imagine my life without her and I'm sure she's the woman I wanna grow old with.But the problem is, I have a girlfriend. And I know she loves me more than anything else. I do love her, but it was nothing compared to the love I have for my ex. Ever since I migrated to a different country, I've done some soul searching. My girlfriend and I have been apart for a year now, and still she wouldn't let go of me. She's still waiting for me to come back. Not that I told her I don't want her anymore, it's because I'm afraid I'll break her heart. I realized I'm still madly in love with my ex more than my current girlfriend now. I'm definitely sure she is the girl I want to spend the rest of my life with. What should I do? Please help me; I'm losing my mind.And for the record, I broke up with my ex-girlfriend for my current one.
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reader, BelieveInLove555 +, writes (18 November 2005):
Don't keep stringing your current girlfriend along. You say you don't want to hurt her but the longer you keep this up the more it will hurt. There's no avoiding hurting her though. No matter what you do it's going to hurt her. She'll cry and she'll hate you. She'll think back at all the times you were talking to your ex and believe that you were cheating this whole time. There's nothing you can do to change that. But it's best if you just do it now and let her get on with her life. She'll get over you eventually but you need to cut all ties with her and let her go, it'll hurt her less in the long run instead of letting her keep seeing you. She'll think that you still love her and that there may be some hope there. There's nothing worse then finding out that the person you're with is only pretending to be into you and waiting for you to break up with them. Do it now to avoid an even deeper scar. Life sucks. Break-ups suck. Everyone has been on the recieving and giving end. That's just the way it is.
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reader, Roly +, writes (17 November 2005):
I'm dealing with the exact same situation, as fate would have it...and in all honesty, you should move on from both the women involved and let them go. "You" have them both in limbo...because your selfish.
Having two women in love with you at the same time, is quite an ego booster...is it not?
It's all about the chase, you know sort of like a dog...he chases the car, but doesn't know what to do with it when he catches it! So he just moves on to the next unsuspecting "car".
Think about it...
Roly
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