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writes:hey so i just turned a sophmore a this guy who went to the same drivers ed with me and goes to a school very near to ours has been IMing all summer. I really like him and im quite sure he likes me but he hasnt really made a big hint just little ones here and there. well anyways with school beginning id really like to date him and id just like some advise on this im pretty shy so im not quite sure what to do. Should i ask him about his feelings for me? or just go on IMing him until something happends? or something else? pleeaaze help me!
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reader, SueZ  +, writes (24 August 2010):
Hey,
No harm in finding out what he likes to do and then setting up a time to go and have some fun together. Go for a bike ride, go for a swim, go to the movies... hell go play video games. It really doesn't matter as long as you both enjoy it and it puts you in the same space. You don't need to specify that it's a date... just hang out. Let it flow from there. Hope this helps. I am practical ( and shy) by nature and it has ALWAYS worked for me.
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reader, LLindy87 +, writes (24 August 2010):
 You could do both, they are both separate approaches to getting your man.
However, the direct way will save you time and you could end up dating him sooner, but the risk is that you might scare him away.
With the subtle approach of just going with the flow and iming him until things may progress or if you're waiting for him to make a move might end up you two being happily together someday and friends first, always a plus, the downside of that though is that either he might be shy too and not ever tell you he likes you or he might not be into you that way and you're wasting your time.
I hope for the formers in both situations. If I were you I'd ask him to hang out sometime. He can decide himself how he sees it, as a date or just two friends hanging out but while you're around each other in person you can flirt and see if he flirts back, you can drop hints that you like him more then a friend.
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