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writes:Hi I have been in a sexual relationship for some time with this one guy, what i don't understand about him is that after we have sex he never calls me for days at a time sometimes 6 or more days go by, yet he txts me twice a day everyday sometimes more, and always sends me xo's but why won't he pick up the phone and talk? iv'e tried to talk to him about this but he just doesn't seem to get it that i don't think a txt message is as personal as a phone call.or means the same thing.can you aunts shed any light as to his behaviour thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2010): I had this issue with a guy I was dating...he wanted to text rather than call me and it bugged the hell out of me until one day, I changed my cell phone number and gave him my home number instead....so he started calling, not as often as I wanted, but at least twice a week with convos lasting about an hour or so.
Men don't respond to nagging or complaining, they respond to ACTION. If you don't want him texting you all the time, DON'T RESPOND. Or what you can do is text him back with something like this "HI! I am really tied up right now therefore I cannot send text messages (smile)! But all is not lost, just call me later on between the hours of (give him a time) and we can catch up on things. Talk to you later---CHOW." There are other examples as well, but you get my point. I find that nagging and complaining serves no purpose and it makes you appear too needy and emotional. If you want a man to do something, you have to kind of be "nice" about it and not aggressive at first if you want results.
Also, some people just do not like talking on the phone esp. with all the tech. go around. I have sisters and brothers who prefer texting rather than talking on the phone....so it can be he hates talking or he is lazy and prefers texting instead. Either way...at least he does communicate with you everyday..twice a day....heck, some women don't even get that from they're guy.
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (24 August 2010):
 You're in a sexual relationship, technically he doesn't have to call or text unless he wants to get frisky that night. Guys don't do phone calls because they either hat to talk on the phone or just don't have much to say. Texting is the new phone call. You should just be happy that he texts you at all.
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reader, SueZ +, writes (24 August 2010):
Wow ... would you call him shy? If he's not shy then I say he's avoiding intimacy. I think it is quite possible that he enjoys sleeping with you but does not particularly want to be intimate with you.
Of course I could be wrong... I only have a few lines to go by.
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reader, SarasMommy +, writes (24 August 2010):
My daughter's father use to do that. Honestly, he must have something else going on with another female. I mean, who can't take 2 minutes out of their day and call you? You should just stop texting him back and tell him you will only talk if he calls you. If you doesn't call you, there you go. You gotta figure out what's important to him.
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