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writes:ok, well, myself and this girl were really good friends 2-3 years ago and were kind of seeing each other. We stopped talking for about 2 years and have started talking again recently.We meet up a few nights ago and we got along great together, then I realised I still have strong feelings for her. The only problem is she has a boyfriend now, I’m confused because on one hand she is an amazing girl I’m my eyes but on the other hand if I do tell her how I feel (even though she has a boyfriend) and she doesn’t feel the same way, we will most likely not stay friends.In my eyes she is beautiful, stunning, funny, smart and we get along really well. What should i do?(Is it ok to try my luck and maybe destroy their relationship knowing that I will be better for her (i haven’t met her boyfriend though)
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reader, benfuller +, writes (25 April 2012):
benfuller is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you to all who have replied.
The reason we stop talking for so long was because i loved her and she didnt feel the same way, I was hurting a lot but i saw that i had to stop talking to her other wise i would be hung up on here forever.
It happening again, each time we talk I tell myself I need to get away from her because otherwise ill be caught casing her for a long time.
It's so hard to stop talking and thinking about her though, i want to do it but dont know if i can...
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reader, benfuller +, writes (18 April 2012):
benfuller is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you to all who have replied.
The reason we stop talking for so long was because i loved her and she didnt feel the same way, I was hurting a lot but i saw that i had to stop talking to her other wise i would be hung up on here forever.
It happening again, each time we talk I tell myself I need to get away from her because otherwise ill be caught casing her for a long time.
It's so hard to stop talking and thinking about her though, i want to do it but dont know if i can...
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reader, confusedcollegekid  +, writes (13 April 2012):
I have been in both situations. I've been the guy to try and get the girl who has a boyfriend. And then karma rewarded me a few years later with a guy trying to get with my current girlfriend. Trust me, don't do it. It's not worth it.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (13 April 2012):
 No, you will gain nothing from trying to destroy her relationship. Well, you might gain some resentment or dislike on her part.
She is with another guy now, because she LIKES/LOVES this guy.
You said you don't know this guy, so HOW on Earth can you know that YOU are better for her then him? If you really were BETTER for her, you two wouldn't have stopped talking 2 years ago. If you really were better for her, she would know it and leave him.
Sorry, but you need to get over yourself.
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (13 April 2012):
 You obviously DON'T like her, because if you did you would respect her choice to be in relationship with someone else. You might wish it had been you and be a little sad over that, BUT the reality is otherwise.
You can gracefully accept what has happened and, at least in your own mind, wish her well. OR you can fret and fume about not getting what you want. It's up to you. Otherwise, as Ceberus said, leave her alone!
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reader, dmartin89  +, writes (13 April 2012):
 If you actually liked her you would not even be thinking about destroying her relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2012): "she is an amazing girl" Not if she goes with you she's not. Any person who let's someone else pursue them while they have a partner is not amazing at all.
"Is it ok to try my luck and maybe destroy their relationship knowing that I will be better for her"
Do you honestly believe that the type of guy who will destroy a person's relationship without regard for her or her boyfriends feelings would be "better"? Not at all OP. Oh and just to tell you, no one respects anyone who thinks they're so great as to be "better" for someone, it's the height of arrogance, plus if you were better you wouldn't have stopped talking in the first place, you were kind of seeing her and you completely lost her, what does that tell you?
"What should i do?"
Just leave her alone OP, she's in a relationship, that makes her out of bounds if she's the type who would actually start seeing you or let you woo her while she has a boyfriend then she's not trustworthy to you either.
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