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writes:Me and my boyfriend have been together a little over a year. He sucks major balls at going down on me and it doesnt hurt yeah it feels good but it doesnt bring me to the level i know i should be at. Ive tried telling him and he just says im not relaxed enough i think his ego is getting in the way of our not so fun sex life. His idea of crazy is doing 69 which in my book counts as normal. Ive tried telling him i want to spice things up bu he doessnt do anything about it. Ive tried myself but he says its took flashy and that he hates it so what am i to do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhe totally changed...it was great thanks everybody
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reader, person12345 +, writes (13 April 2012):
 If he hates the more wild things, you have to respect that. Some people aren't into wild sex and that's OK. He's not required to do them simply because he's a man.
If you aren't happy with the oral sex, you need to tell him what to do. Don't tell him what not to do, it's always unproductive. Tell him what you like and make a show out of making sure he knows when you like something so he'll keep doing it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2012): OP he's just being lazy and no offence OP but all you're doing is moaning. You're telling him to spice things up,you tell him oral is not doing what it's supposed to but that's not working? It sounds like he's the type of guy who will go along with it if you show him specifically what you want him to do but he doesn't want the hassle of having to try and figure stuff out on his own.
You have to be constructive OP, buy a book or find a site that has a list of sexual positions, sex games and check lists. Print out one of these position check lists and ask him to try all those positions with you checking off the ones you like and scoring them out of ten, so you can go back and keep doing the ones you like the most. Get oral technique books, diagrams maybe even find an instruction video or two, show them to him and ask him to do those for you.
Even if this is a matter of pride for him, then you criticizing his skills is not helping is it? Turn it into a fun game. Stop telling him he's crap at it and start getting to try all this stuff with you. Try stick to only telling him when he's doing stuff well and he'll keep doing that stuff.
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