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writes:there's this girl that i have liked for a while lets call her "jane smith",a little while ago i tried to ask her out but it didn't turn out so well... anyways a couple of months went by and since i was sure i had no chance i started looking at other options, then one night i was a little tipsy and i ended up sleeping with the town bicycle,(that sounds mean but i'm just trying to get the point across). well "jane smith" found out and now she hates me, i guess she really liked me, now i feel incredibly bad. is there any way that i would have i could get her to consider me again? Reply to this Question
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reader, C.J.G +, writes (22 September 2007):
not that helpful, thats what i meant to say, this is my actual account i just started it, by the looks of the answers so far i'm going to need advice for a while
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2007): maybe she just got mad because you proved her right, that you will sleep with anyone, whether under the influence of alcohol or not, so she thinks your feelings you claimed to have for her were not genuine, regardless of whether they were, you're not going to win her trust back now. Well thats not the helpful i was shooting for but your probably right. i've never beeen one to do something like that before. but i guess i was almost at the point where i thought that it would never happen. i was desperate and i wish i could take it back. Every time i see "Jane smith" she seems incredebly mad at me. last time i had a chance to talk to her she told me that i used to be one of the last decent guys left and now i'm just "one of them" (referring to all the not decent guys)
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reader, Uncle Trev  +, writes (22 September 2007):
It looks like you may have blown it although I can think of one thing you could say that might get her on side but you will have to work things slowly with her over a long time and be very patient.If you were to say to her that the only reason you went with this other girl was because you honestly believed that you wouldn't have had a chance with anybody as classy as her and so you went for somebody way below her league and have so seriously regretted it ever since. Tell her that you really thought she was so far out of your league and you have sat there day after day wishing that there would have been a chance with her but not really expecting that it could ever happen.If you play this card and sincerely show regret for what you have done you just might have a chance. It is a bit of a long shot but by what you say she is well worth it.Hope this has helped a bit.Trev
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2007): Hmmm, tricky... I think you should give up on her for now. BUT, if you can prove yourself later...in a few years... she may be forgiving and realize that it was HER who turned you down first. Dont let her make you think that you HAD a chance and then BOOM you messed it up...no..thats complete crap. And if you ever get into a convo with her about this...tell her that.good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2007): I think you've kind of blown it with her really - people are unfortunately judgemental and sleeping with the 'village bike' in a womans eyes will make you look cheap and easy and not exactly selective - so she would hardly feel special sleeping with you now would she? My advice is move on or move village and maybe next time set your standards a little higher and stick to them.
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reader, leanne.od +, writes (21 September 2007):
 unfortunately, her opinion of you will always be clouded with the fact that you slept with this girl, who is known for sleeping around, when she thought you liked her.
maybe she just got mad because you proved her right, that you will sleep with anyone, whether under the influence of alcohol or not, so she thinks your feelings you claimed to have for her were not genuine, regardless of whether they were, you're not going to win her trust back now.
she has seen you for what she beleives you're really like and if you sleep with "the villiage bike" that's the consequences i'm afraid.
sorry but it's better to be honest sometimes than give false hope.
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