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writes:hi everyone i really need your help on a very sensitive problem im facing.my fiance recently lost his grandmother they were really close,she was his world and visa versa,the days leading up to her death were quite traumatic for everyone but i felt then he was starting to withdraw from me but we got by ok,since she died he has completly excluded me from himself,ive waited and waited for him to either call,txt or turn up at my home and he aint bothered to do either,is this normal behaviour from someone thats grieving,someone you love with all your heart,all i want to do is be there to hug and hold him and reassure him that im always available 24/7 as i was before this sad time in our lives,yet he wont let me in,its breaking my heart because i know he loves me,how and what do i do about it as im lost
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2007): Feel sorry for him,not yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2007): It is his way of coping with grief.Its probably one one the worst times imaginable. Just try and understand that he`s not being himself and time is the healer. It is common for people the shut themselves away from everyday life,whilst others handle it the opposite way round.If this has been going on longer than 3 months then he needs bereavement counseling. Just try to understand him. Its horrible for him right now.
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reader, Tommy7  +, writes (21 September 2007):
Does he have family? He should be seeing a doctor to determine if he needs treatment for depression. If he has no family you can contact see if there is a help group in you area and call them for advice.
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reader, leanne.od +, writes (21 September 2007):
 i'm sorry for your husbands loss. greieving effects different people in different ways. you need to try and understand that he loved his granmother so much and now he hs to figure out in his mind how he's going to deal with it pshycologically. what i suggest is letting him know you are alway there for him if he needs to talk but you respect his need for space and time to move on in his own way.
in time, he will accept her passing and return to himself but the wounds are sore and open, but they will heal.
best of luck
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