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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I like one of my brother's friends. Problem is he's not only one of my brother's very close friends, they are also roommates, and it complicated everything.When I first met him, he texted me daily, he was always calling me cute and things like that, and we hung out at his place a lot, for about two months. We would just talk, watch TV, whatever. Most of the time my brother was there too, not always with us, but in the apartment. There were a couple times that we were completely alone, but he never made a move. I know he likes (liked?) me, I'm sure he probably knew I liked him. But I don't make the first move... it's not that I think girls shouldn't or anything, I'm just way too shy. I tried to make myself do something, didn't work.So nothing ever happened, and we haven't really talked for over a month. Now I'd feel weird and like it's too late to text/call him. I always wait for guys to do it first, I can't help it.The family issues complicated things. It's not like there were a lot of times that we could be alone at his place, and he never wanted to come to my house because he knows my dad through some family connection and doesn't like him (I live with my parents). My brother has also cut himself off from everyone in the family except for me - they don't even know where he lives - so it had to be a big secret all the time about where I was going, I couldn't even mention his name because my dad knows him, and all I could think about was how all that would ever work in the future. I was getting tired of always being the one to go to him too.But I still kind of like him. I thought we had a chance. Now I think he doesn't want to text me because I haven't texted him, but I don't want to text him because he hasn't texted me... I don't know. I'm just confused about what, if anything, I should do. I'm not like "in love" (for lack of a better term) with him, I just like him and like being with him, although I did want it to turn into something more. But at the same time I'm not sure if I *really* like him, or if I just want a boyfriend.So should I do something? Or just move on?
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reader, Starlasart +, writes (21 March 2013):
 Hi, Sending a text to a guy is not a problem (No matter how long it has been). You can make it short and simple and just text something like "Hey, I just wanted to say Hi and see how you were doing. Hope all is well." See if that sparks an interest. If you don't get a respond don't take it as (oh he hates me or he moved on) because he might have updated his phone or got a new number. Maybe you can go and visit with your brother and if he is there ask how things are going and see if any "Sparks" fly. If you feel that you still like him, I would suggest talking it over with your brother. You don't want to spoil a good relationship with him over a guy that you are not sure things will work out with. Trust me, a brother is much better to have then a boyfriend! If no sparks fly, friends are always good to have! hope that helps some!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2013): He knows how to contact you, if he is interested he will. Meanwhile go on with your life. If you are obsessing about him it will turn him away. Pushy girls never win in the long run, they usually get dumped. I know that for a fact.
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