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Should we be friends and see what happens later on?

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Question - (17 March 2013) 1 Answers - (Newest, 20 March 2013)
A male Australia age 36-40, anonymous writes:

Here is my situation:

We dated for 6 months, then had to move to different countries. Tried long distance but broke up after 2 months because of it. She went back to her ex, we didn't speak for 2 months until she came back and I thought we were getting back together. She was single again, so we were getting close and then when I brought it up I found out that she started seeing another guy. I hadn't moved on at all, and I cut off all contact with her (but said htat we should just keep in touch but can't have a real friendship).

Now, its been 9 months since I saw her. And after two months of NC she contacted me saying that she misses the way we used to be, and that she still thinks about me everyday. At the same time, pretty sure she's still with the guy.

I think about her everyday too, and I was moving on. But when she said this I bounced right back. I also know that I'll be back in her country within the year. Should I offer her real friendship? But tell her that I do not want to know anything about her man, or her sex life, neither do I want to talk about the past. That we only concentrate on the future. Will this work?

I know that the only way for me to get over her is to completely cut her out of my life. I've tried but she keeps coming back. And what I'm thinking is, its been almost 9 months that we havent seen each other, and yet we still think about each other everyday. Theres something there, maybe a friendship is good for now, and then we'll see where it goes?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2013):

I say ask her if she REALLY wants to be with you. If she doesn't she don't deserved you and there are many many many other girls to find out there if she does ask her If she will really comit to the realationship. Tell her that she can't go back and fourth and stuff. Yea goodl luck

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