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writes:In January my girlfriend broke up with me after almost six years together.She said she just doesn't feel that spark and is not sure if she ever has. Six years is a long time to figure that out. Recently, I found a letter she had written to someone she works with and has become close friends with both her and her new wife. She has been spending a lot of time there as well as texting and having late night phone calls. In this letter she mentions how amazing this girl makes her feel.The problem is this Co-Worker recently married her partner in October. I think the big problem in our relationship was that my partner thought she always had to take care of me. She has always had a secure job making more money. I am getting my master’s degree right now so I don't work much but she's always told me I didn’t need to. She says she still loves me and we still live together until the end of summer. What are the chances that she is going through a phase of how this other person makes her feel and that we can somehow work this out if I can show her I am not needy and can take care of myself
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (17 March 2013):
 I will tell you to screw the chances and just be the best you can. She had been emotionally cheating on you if it wasn't for that coworker it would be another girl in the future. She already had one foot out the door.
Prepare for a new place to live in the summer, move on from the past relationship. You have to basically show her that you don't need her at all. You don't need a girlfriend who thinks she's better than you because she makes more money.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2013): To be truthful, we cannot know what is in your gfs mind. And even after six years you can't know either. Speculating can just drive you crazy. My suggestion is that you should have no contact with her once you move out. It will help you heal. If she has made a mistake she will realise that in her own time. You can't make her see anything or make her change her mind she has to see that herself. No contact would also make her see your not needy.Must be strange still living with her, but I would say if she is having doubts and doesnt want to be with you, then its best you move on.Good luck!
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