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writes: Should I give one of my guy friends a chance?Earlier today I recieved a call from a friend of mine asking if i liked anyone at school. I said no. I'm into older guys in their 20's most of the time, and she knows that. (I'm 17, 18 in Feb)Apparently, there's a guy at my school who's been crushing on me for about a year and hasn't had the guts to tell me, but thats possibly because we have a good friendship the way it is right now(i have a person in mind, but not sure if its really him). My friend says that there are guys at our school (only has about 400 kids, 100 of them are seniors), who are very mature and decent, and I should give them a chance. However, I have no strong feelings towards ANY of the boys in my school. Jane(not really her name, but lets say she is my friend), thinks that I should give Mr.x a chance, although I do not feel the same way(considering I have no attraction towards any of my high school boys). She's right about the part where I don't know whats gonna happen, and if I ever do go on a date and have no feelings towards him, then w/e, i gave it a shot(and because we already have a solid friendship, its not like he won't support me or still continue to be my friend[sometimes, i guess]). But I don't know what to do! I can't just not go after my older guys who are my biggest interest. But then again, I have a friendship w/ Mr.x and know that i've known for who knows how long(and its always good to start off as friends first and then be MORE than friends later..)I mean..i feel that it is a "forced liking" on my part. Jane knows me pretty well too, and she thinks that we would be a great couple (again, because we are already friends). I see every guy at my school as friends. Doesn't it make sense that I should give it a shot if both people have feelings towards each other? Are there occasions where 1 sided liking has become 2 sided eventually? P.S: I go on dates w/ either older guys, or someone who doesn't go to my school(and i don't even know them that well, but its all interest) GAH!
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reader, youcant loose what you never had!  +, writes (17 September 2007):
i love older guys too.there more mature and fun!but enough about me!it does sound like its not your choice.ok this mr x has a crush on you and he may be a little heartbroken if you turned him down and just stayed mates but hell fell a lot worse if you go on a date hell think he has a chance and you being into older guys know that all he'll ever be is mates. you friend sounds like a good mate and knows you well she thinks you'll be great together but itll be you who is with him not her.don't be uncumftable just to please others.it sound like to me he wont be anything more its your choice but you like older guys i would stick to that!
and you say u see all your school lads as mates that says it all.mr x isnt the one.
good look with your dec and keep me posted thanks x x x
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reader, 15 YR OLD GUY  +, writes (16 September 2007):
hae i sorta know how your situation is if u like him as a friend then there was attraction already there for you two to become friends but its not the same as liking someone ull have to get to know them better to really know if u really like this guy but say if ur looking for love attraction is totally different from love one tip to remember love is a bond thing tht keeps u and ur bf together attraction is something tht can last but not for long u cant always be attracted to someone but u can always love someone if ur in a situation where this guy really likes you u should give it a chance but make conditions that if it doesn't work out that u will always be friends u cant be forced to like someone if u dont feel the same way its upto you only you can make that choice
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