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writes:I care very much for my girlfriend and I trust her. When we go out with friends, she often finds it fun to make out with her girl friends, especially when she has been drinking. Maybe I am crazy because for many people this would be their fantasy but I really don't like it. I have no problem with this sort of thing as long as it is not my girlfriend who is involved.I know it is only for fun and it doesn't mean anything but it still affects me. What should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, Oblivia  +, writes (16 September 2007):
 Hi,
You shouldn’t accept this if it hurts your feelings. As others here also say, it is cheating even though same sex. It is your feelings that decides whether it is ok or not for you, not the fact that other people might have it for a fantasy. Also think of how many kind of fantasies there are out there, you wouldn’t want it to happen to you for real even though the imagination of some of them might seem exciting.
Talk to her about it, really. If she cares about you, she doesn’t want to hurt your feelings by doing this. And if it is true she does it because she wants to act in a way to turn you on, then grab the opportunity to tell her what to do to REALLY turn you on....;)
Good luck!
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reader, Astrid  +, writes (16 September 2007):
 I agree Sugarbuns maybe she thinks u like it or at least find it sexy ot whatever so that u should have a talk if u disapprove of her actions when drinking, maybe these girls are just doing the idiot pretending they're funny but definitely if u feel hurt and u're a couple then it is not right, talk to her and do not argue just talk about the situation and consider what u both expect of the realtionship and set limits to itlove
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2007): Cheating is still cheating even if it's with the same sex! Does she ony do it around you? If she does then maybe she's doing it to please you, just tell her when sober that you don't like her kissing someone else and she should stop. If she's not doing it around you all the time then have a go at her, that is cheating.
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reader, rcn  +, writes (16 September 2007):
 It is for fun, if you're single. Being with someone even playing with the same sex is cheating. It's a violation of your trust. If it's something that bothers you, you need to let her know how you feel. If she cares for you, she will respect your feelings, and the relationship you share with her.
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reader, Sugarbuns +, writes (16 September 2007):
 Talk to her about it, preferrably when she's sober and tell her you don't like it, not even in play. She's probably doing it because she thinks you're getting off on it. Once she realizes it's not something you enjoy watching, maybe she'll quit doing it. Good luck.
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