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writes:hi everyoneso basically i think im starting to like one of my best friends ex's. they have been apart about 4/5 months now but they are both really good friends and me and her have been friends for about a year or so now. However, the other day me and my friends went out for a meal as it was my birthday and she was the only girl who could command there was about 8 of us all together.me and her had been chatting before on snapchat and we did it so much she was top of my friends and i was top on hers. she also started the conversation off. anyway at the meal and pub we went to we sat next to each other both times and we all had a good time etc and me her and my other friend walked her to her stop and where i was going to the train station as thats where she got her bus from and we kept making each other laugh all night and we had a couple of photos together too but thats cause it was my birthday. I think i felt a connection but shes my friends ex and i don't want a relationship with her cause she is my friend and she is a friends ex and i don't want to ever do that. anyway she is really pretty i have always thought so but should i tell my friend I like his ex? like i said i don't want to have a relationship and i havent spoken to her today at all because i don't want to get too attached but should i let him know that i like her but don't want to act on it? hes one of my closest friends and we are off to uni together so i don't want to fall out or anything which i don't think will happen as if i did tell him id only tell him.thanks everyone in advance
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2014): if u dont want a relationship with her then what is the problem? if u do (which i suspect u do), then she is his ex and its none of his business if she met the wrong friend first and the right one second.. go for it.
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reader, fi_the_tree +, writes (26 May 2014):
 I guess it can't hurt to let him know that you like her. Just make sure he knows that it's not gonna go any further. He may surprise you and be cool about it, saying that you should date her. Just be honest with him, he'll appreciate it.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (26 May 2014):
 I am not quite sure what you are asking here...
You say you would never have a relationship with this girl "because she is a friend" , ( ??..tons of relationships develop from being friends first, but, whatever )- so I suppose you neither would try to have a fling or an FBW or an ONS with her - in short, nothing intimate or romantic, other than just friendship. EVER.
So, what there would be actually to say to your friend / her ex... that you find this girl attractive and pretty ? Bah, you can tell him if you want, I don't think he'd kick your ass or feel insulted or accuse you of breaking any bro's code just because you two happen to share the same taste in women. He thought she is pretty and you too think she is pretty. No big deal.
On the other hand, since you say you have decided that you are NOT going to act on this attraction anyway, I don't see the need to specifically bring up the subject if it does not come up by itself, and there's no special reason why your friend should know, unless it is important to YOU to share all your likes and dislikes with him.
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