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writes:So I have a friend that I recently told I have feelings for. The problem is, when I told her, it was really awkward and she pretty much walked me into the whole situation. She shot me down, but my heart won't let me give up. Would going up to her and expressing my feelings to her on my own terms be a good idea or is it just a lost cause? Reply to this Question
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reader, Relationship.Chef +, writes (28 January 2012):
 It certainly sounds like it was a very uncomfortable situation for both of you.
Perhaps, that's what dictated her abrupt response.
Give it another shot, this time, making sure that you're both in a comfortable place and time.
If she says "no" then, then it's a lost cause. Move on.
But, never place an important question in front of a person when other factors might mitigate their response.
Best of luck!
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (28 January 2012):
 Moving on is the best idea.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (27 January 2012):
 I'm sorry this happened, but as a woman let me tell you it is very irritating and uncomfortable when a man won't take no for an answer. No is not a challenge. I know rejection is heartbreaking, but she will respect you way more if you can gracefully accept her rejection than if you keep trying.
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