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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:long story short is: -my friend likes this guy (we'll call him M) but is also still hanging out with her ex bf. -she introduced me to him prior to new years eve.-hes a nice guy, ive hung out with "M" and her in a group and with "M"/group without her too...i think he might be absolutely great for her.-i've given her feedback of my opinion each and every time i've interacted with him and told her i think he is definitely better for her than her ex and her last fling.-she knows im 100% interested in another guy (we'll call him D) and only have-i made plans with my co-worker to go out for a drink after work last night, then i got a text from M asking if i wanted to meet up for drinks with the group (just so happens to be the same place my co-worker and i were planning on going) so i said sure-we ending up drinking more than just one drink and all were a little tipsy-i drunk facebooked about how hanging out with M and how he got me drunk (obviously not realizing what i was doing)-my friend flipped her crap out and instead of asking what was going on, she sent nasty, angry texts to both of us and told us to enjoy each other and that she was not talking to either of us againso my dilemma is obvious. angry friend, but im not sure how to go about dealing with this situation so any and all advice is welcome. i DO NOT like M at all like she is insinuating and she knows darn well i'm hung up on another guy. in fact, if she would calm down enough to maturely ask what the deal was about last night i would be able to give her some solid information about M and confirm that he really does like her and hes just really shy and confused because she's hanging with her ex. i dont know if she reacted this way out shock, jealousy, lack of trust in men, lack of trust in past friendships, etc....but am i wrong to feel mildly offended by her suggestion that i would get drunk and hook up with her crush? i feel like she, as my friend, doesnt even know who i am and i am personally upset that she is more or less suggesting that im a slut. im not about to grovel or beg for her to talk to me, that is not my style considering she said she was done talking to both of us. I will be more than happy to give her some time to process, but im not sure what to say at this point or how to handle the situation, since i too am now upset with the way she handled this and her implications about me. i understand how she might be frustrated because the guy she likes is hanging out with me (but just as friends, and he did text her to see what she was up to as well...she chose to not respond). please help...
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