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female
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30-35,
*archie
writes:i've known this guy since i was little. He was a very notorious guy, but now he has become very quiet. He's just tryin to get himsef out of the mess he got involved in. Im a very quiet n simple person, i hardly move out of the house, im a medical student. Me and him, are just quiet friends. Anytime i sees him, i say hi and he smile @me wavin @me too. I like so much and i guess he does same to me too. So one day he asked me for my contact, n i willingly gave it to him. @first he didnt call then later he told me he lost my number. I gave him again my contact, n he called me. I was about enterin my exam hall when he called, we talked. He asked to see me, n i went to see him but it took days before i went to his place to see him. He then told me he wanted to have a relationship with him, n i said ok, what kind of relationship, he said he wants me to be his gf.To cut long story short, i told him i had a bf. And he said no problem he proceeded to kiss me n it felt so wonderful. I had never felt what i felt when he kissed me before wit anyother person, not even wit my bf. Now it's up to a month we've been together.. He's been very nice to me. He doesn't get angry wit me no matter what i do. It's one weeks now since i saw him n he's askin questions like between him n my bf who i love most, and what he was to me. Im really confused because since then he's been actin wierd. I dont know what to do because i love him n dont want to hurt him. Please any comment will be appreciated.
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (19 May 2013):
Hi there. You like this new man and the way he kisses, but is that enough?
And now he knows that you have a boyfriend already, and may be starting to wonder where he stands in all this.
He might also be wondering if he really has a chance with you, and whether you will leave the first guy.
Because, the new man realizes that you are cheating on your first boyfriend with him, and will no doubt wonder, if you will cheat on him - with someone else.
That would be the one thing holding him back.
You doesn't know if he can or should trust you.
Eventually, you will have to make a decision.
And that decision will determine whether you want to be with the first boyfriend, or with the new man.
Only time will tell.
The longer you keep seeing the two men, the more difficult it will become for all concerned.
It is not really being fair to either of them.
The first boyfriend trusts you, but has not idea whatsoever that you are seeing someone else.
And the second man - your new man - knows about the first boyfriend, and says that is okay.
Eventually though, the new man will NOT be okay with it, and will pressure you to make a decision.
And you might lose both!
So keep that in mind, while making up your mind.
There can be no real winners here, in a situation like this, I promise you.
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