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writes:There is someone I met a couple of months ago and we have been getting along well. We've talked alot, seen eachother alone and with friends, kissed and had sex. He has made the effort with me and I'm sure that he does like me.We haven't talked about the situation but now I'm at the stage where I want to say something. I want to at least say that I like him and want to get to know him a bit more. I don't want to appear pushy or giving the impression that I want something serious.So what I want to ask is this an okay thing to say and could it possibly not come as a suprise to him if I said something about the situation to him? Reply to this Question
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reader, slimfish  +, writes (7 October 2010):
 ask him how he feels, you might be very surprised.
if he wasnt interested he wouldnot still be arround.
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reader, xanthic  +, writes (7 October 2010):
 You're sure he likes you, but you're hesitant to tell him you like him? That doesn't make a lot of sense, to be honest.
Don't lower your standards and sacrifice your self-respect just because you're afraid he won't like you for it. If he reacts negatively to you wanting to be more than a friend with benefits, he's not worth keeping around anyway. Don't be afraid to speak up and tell him how you feel about the situation you're both in. It's not considered being pushy, and if he feels it is, it means he was only after one thing from you the whole time.
Rather than waiting to have the 'I like you in that way' conversation until after you've had sex and gotten involved, do the opposite. Having a discussion about where you stand with someone and where things are going should come before sex, even if the agreement is to be friends with benefits. It'll save you both a lot of time and confusion.
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