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writes:I have a crush on this boy who has been my friend for over 3 years now. I started like him about a year ago, and although it was only a crush at first I think I may be in love now. Even though he maybe just another boy to others to me he is the most amazing person I've ever met. Every time I see him I get butterflies. I don't know how he feels about me, and I'm not ready to get my heart broken either, i dont know what to do?
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reader, Uncle PJ  +, writes (3 March 2012):
 Sometimes to get something in life, you have to put your body or heart on the line. If you don't buy a ticket then you can't win the raffle. The only way you're going to know how he feels or if you can get into a relationship with him is by telling him how you feel and talking to him about it.
The best way to possibly stop having your heart broken is by going into the conversation thinking that he isn't going to have feelings for you rather than thinking he does. This way if he does then you be pleasantly surprised and if he doesn't then you won't be bitterly disappointed as you expected it.
The only other problem you will face is the friendship. If it turns out that he doesn't like you then it will make the friendship awkward and could potentially end it. But if you managed to get into a relationship, when/if it ended then the friendship will almost certainly end too.
So you have to ask yourself whether you are willing to risk it to potentially get something you really want. In all fairness, most school friendships won't last into adulthood so it is probably worth trying it. But you do really need to think about it and make a decision you are happy with. But also the main thing is to not regret the decision you've made. Good luck and I wish all the best with whatever to decide to do.
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