A
female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:hi i have met a wonderful man online and we talk on the phone a lot, we will be meeting soon. i cant seem to get him put of my mind he is amazing! only problem is his asian and im white!if we actually did start a relationship, my faimily would never accept him! i only have a small family and i would hate to fall out.also where i have been bought up in a family of 'white with white' im finding it hard to see past skin colour! yes his amazing, defo the nicest man i ever met so what's wrong with me?! Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2012): If you knew the problems his race would cause initially, perhaps you shouldn't have let it get this far.If everyone close to you feels like this too its really a non starter because of how you see problems developing.
However, you haven't even met face to face yet so it could be it won't go further than the first meeting, so your worrying about things that may never happen,just relax.
A
female
reader, janniepeg  +, writes (3 March 2012):
 I am not judgmental and I don't call people racist. This is a sensitive topic so I want to state that first. I also understand why people stay conservative. If you decide not to date him, let not this issue bother you and just move on. Only date him if you decide to move outside of your family area and visit them once in a while. I am sure there are many nice white men as well. If your family would never accept him then it would be unwise to bring a colored person to your family. It would be unfair that grandma or grandpa favors a white grandchild over yours.
...............................
A
female
reader, PerhapsNot  +, writes (3 March 2012):
 You need to relax. You haven't even met this man in real life yet. So far your online affair has been reduced to the internet and phone. You can't start imagining a future with him and how your family will react, if you haven't even met, and if you aren't a couple yet. You're over-thinking and over-reacting. Maybe when you meet him in real life, you will feel differently about him (for better or for worse). Maybe you'll never even be in a relationship with him, so relax. Meet up and see where the meetings takes you.
...............................
|
