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writes:Hi, so i'm a 14(nearly 15) year old girl and im only in y10 at the moment. But i'm a little bit confused because i think i miight be bisexual. i defintealy like boys bcos i crush on boys just like all my other friends do and have liked some boys i know., but some-times i think i might like girls aswell because although i dont particularly like any of m girl friends; i sometimes find myself looking at girls i see and, wel... i wouldnt say 'checking them out'- but i tend to notice alot if i see someone really pretty. and im not going to name names but i often find myself attracted to certain characters on TV shows i watch, etc it sounds wierd saying it and cos i know alot of ppl might think that i am to young to know. but i think deep down i do know, Bcos,really,i not THAT confused, i just think i like girls and boys. im not 100% though. i've never had a serious relationship with boy or girl, and nver done anything sexually with another person, either- there's obviously know definite way to know until i get a bit older and start dating/ experimenting. how can i figure out if i am bi or not and what age do people usually realise for sure? should i tell someone? sometimes i think i could tell my bestfriend but i dno..?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks guys for your answers, they were really helpful. :)x
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2011): Loads of teenagers go through these sorts of emotions, your hormones will be going crazy. I'm a bit older than you, also a girl, and when I was around 14 I started having these sorts of thoughts. The only way to know is to try different things with different people. Its normal to be curious. I have only ever been in relationships with men, but I have had sexual experiences with girls, because I find them attractive. I talked to my friends about these sorts of things, but they are all very open and accepting people, if your group of friends might think its 'weird' it would probably be best to keep it to yourself, as teenage girls can be the most malicious people, and it could cause a lot of upset.
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reader, Orbiter +, writes (26 May 2011):
There's no real rush or need to define yourself as a certain sexuality. I'd guess you'll be more sure around 18-20 but this is just a guideline. It will vary from person to person.It's true that a lot of people your age get crushes on the same gender. Some people grow out of this and some don't so you're right you'll probably only know for sure when you're older and start having relationships. For the moment I wouldn't bother telling anyone as it might not be the case. Especially at school (e.g best friend) because it may be spread around (like if you two had an argument) and everyone will know. Unfortunately quite a few kids at secondary school will be immature and the fact is you may get bullied/teased about it. If you really feel the need to tell someone as it's making you unhappy or you become more sure of sexuality then I would first discuss it with someone in your family you're close with like your Mum.
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