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writes: There's a girl I really like at work. Problem is she's just got back with her ex. What do I do now. I don't want to move on, especially if she splits with him again. How do I find out if I'm in with a shot?
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reader, Country Woman  +, writes (30 April 2006):
 Has this girl ever shown interest in you at all?
The ex was an ex for a reason and it could be just a matter of time before things go pear shaped for them again.
I think patience is the name of the game here.
Be friendly, polite and give her compliments like she looks nice or her hair or nails etc. All women like compliments so just try to hang back but always appear as a really nice guy.
I think time will tell with this girl and you will have to try and read any signs really well.
I guess I haven't said what you want to hear in a sense but perseverence and just being in the background will be a good thing right now as I think if things do go up in the air again for her with the ex, who is the natural guy who is there to pick up the pieces.
If things do end with the ex don't go in like a bull in a china shop either as she will be emotionally raw again and so you will have to be patient at that time too.
There are no guarantees in life so see how things go but if on the other hand the relationship gets to the point of engagement or something, high tail it out of there and look for a new girl of your own.
Don't waste your life forever on one girl.
Another attraction for a woman is to see a man who is happy as well so if you do find that you don't want to wait forever and she sees you with someone new then who knows. I am not saying use somebody but fate is a funny thing sometimes.
Take care and good luck.
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reader, bonym +, writes (30 April 2006):
 Sir, if she is now back in a relationship, you must back off for now. You cant go and meddle with the relationship, that wont be wise. What you must do is let things have their course, if she does split up with him, then after a good while, you can see if the two of you could be together, but while she is with someone else, you need to leave her alone because you have to remember its not just about how you feel, believe me, I have liked so many men who are in relationships, but I cant be selfish, I have to let go because they are comitted to someone else, not me. xXx
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