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writes:Okay, I had a huge fight with my fiancee a couple of days ago and in the heat I busted out. I am pregnant!We had been trying to get pregnant since december so I felt awful...So a few days later when he asked me if it was really true I couldent keep it inside anymore and started to cry and told him everything.He told me afterwards. You played with my dream...So at this momemt I though he was going to leave me...But he then said.I hate the lie, but I don't hate you...I love you and...I want you in my life forever and ever until my last breath. But as a truthful person.Never ever reapet this mistake. I give you 1 more chance... So don't break my trust again...Even after he said that I still feel scared and worried. I don't know where to turn. I wanna cry so much, I hate myself for doing something so stupid...I want to earn his trust again, but I don't know what to do....Please someone help...
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reader, Denise32  +, writes (7 March 2011):
 I have a "revolutionary" idea for you: why don't you get married first? The aunt who pointed out that 18-21 is quite young and you may not be prepared yet - to get pregnant.
All the best
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reader, dirtball +, writes (7 March 2011):
 There is no easy way to earn trust. It's a long road. What you have to do is be honest. Don't lie, especially not to manipulate.
He has forgiven you, or at least begun the process of forgiveness. That's a good sign, and it's a good sign you came clean. You have to forgive yourself as well.
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reader, AlwaysHereToHelp!  +, writes (7 March 2011):
 Hello :)
Well you are right you shouldnt of said but we can all do things like this in the heat of the moment
but you need to stop holding it against yourself as its going to make you feel worse we all make mistakes some big and others small.
He probably feels as bad as you do about this, and of course hes not going to trust you staright away, but i think in this case you just need to chill. Time should heal both of your wounds and soon he will start trusting you and you will both learn to forget about your mistake.
Hope this helps x
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reader, GeeGee255 +, writes (7 March 2011):
 He has already forgiven you and told you what he expects from you in the future. Now you just have to forgive yourself and do your best to make it up to him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2011): Your question is answered very simply..do not lie to him again but I question the trying to get pregnant. Your age is 18-21 which is very young and I think you have possibly given yourself a wake up call that you are possibly too immature at the moment. Not being horrible, it's just my feeling.
Good luck though.
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