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writes:Hi er I'm 14 years old and living in Portsmouth ATM I have never had my first kiss and I lie about it to mates to not be embarrassed. How can I change this and build my confidence? I need ideas on who in general and how should I tell them? Thanks for the help guys
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reader, Tonywoodo +, writes (21 February 2011):
Heyy, I to am 14 but I kissed when I was 11 what I suggest you do, don't tell your friends just start talking to a girl you think you might have a chance with try to go out with her and kiss her my friend only recently kissed for the first time and is now in a great relationship with this great looking girl, but he had to change a little so the girl might take more interst in him but don't not be yourself :)
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reader, Lovely15  +, writes (21 February 2011):
Never lie about yourself to anyone in anyway about anything. You are who you are.. EMBRACE it. Everyone experiences life at a different pace and confident people know and accept that and embrace whatever experience happens to be in front of them. I GUARANTEE that there is someone that you know that feels the EXACT same way you are feeling right now and that is the case with every problem in life... you are rarely ever alone. Just LOVE yourself no matter what. You will be confronted with this same issue over and over... there's your first kiss, first time having sex, first time moving out with someone, first time taking a vacation with a gf/bf and the list goes on. When will the lies stop?? There are just so many firsts in the world of love!! Take your time.. there's no rush. It WILL happen in time. I didn't have my first kiss until I was 14 and I had sex when I was 16. Sometimes I wish I had waited until I was older for both of those things. TRUST ME it's not about when or the quantity of kisses you get.. it's about QUALITY. Make sure you care about the girl you kiss. Go on with your life.. don't stress about this cuz in just a few years you'll look back and want all of the memories you have of this time in your life to be meaningful as possible. And btw.. if your friends give you hard time about it.. tell them to suck it. Two things I want you to Google: "how to be a confident person" and "courage of conviction". Read about both of those things and apply what you read to your life. I wish I knew about both of those things 10 years ago when I was 14!!
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reader, hugo95 +, writes (21 February 2011):
Most people may not this, but I have been in your situation and my advice is:
Your first kiss is something to get over with. Other people will say it should be with someone you like and someone it 'means something' with, but this is bullshit. If you are worrying about the fact you've never kissed someone, just do it with anyone, even if it doesn't mean anything. Find a desperate girl (this sounds horrible I know but I think it's good advice), or possibly a girl who's never kissed anyone either, so is in the same position as you (just wants to get it over with).
My first kiss was when I was 12, with this girl at a party I'd never spoken to before (and have barely spoken to since). It wasn't particularly enjoyable, and didn't mean anything, but I don't regret it at all because it was a huge relief and meant I didn't worry about it anymore.
So yeah, just find someone, anyone, and get it over with :)
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reader, Capri2  +, writes (21 February 2011):
If your friends are about your age, most of them have lied to you about this too. So you are even. :)
My two cents.
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reader, TrustInYou +, writes (21 February 2011):
 Hiya,
You may not be thrilled to hear this, but I'm 13 and just had my first kiss. So, I do know how you feel. Okay, the first thing you need to do is stop lying. I'm saying to tell your friend that you lied to them, but just don't bring it up. If they do, just say "Well, you know...". Then they'll drop it. Now in order to get that first kiss, you must find a girl you have slight feelings for, and start easy. Hold hands, hug, and then, in the second week, at the end of the day just lean in. But don't french her. That will make her think your moving way to fast.
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reader, Thisdizzle +, writes (21 February 2011):
Been there. Don't worry so much what they'll think of you. If they're good friends, you may be made fun of a bit, but it will all be in good fun. If it's mean spirited though, you know to seek out new friends. Start honest now, you don't want to make a habit of lying to avoid ridicule.
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