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MissyMinnie
writes:I've never been so scared in my life! last summer me and my boyfriend/fiancee started having sex. We'd known eachother for 3 years and been best friends for 2. We started going out on February 21st 2007. We didnt want to push things so we waited for 4 months before considering having sex. At first we were really really careful, and then we stopped using condoms, Im allergic to latex so you can understand why. We were eachothers firsts so STIs were in the back of our minds, so was the chance of me getting pregnant. My periods had been MIA for 2 years so i didnt think about it. Then the pains started in August and I hate doctors so I refused to go. But in November they were really bad so I made an appointment to have an ultrasound. My appointment was booked for December 6th. I went with my boyfriends mum to the hospital and I waited for what felt like forever for my turn. I was so scared. When I was called into the room and laid down on the bed and the gel was put on my stomach my heart started picking up the pace, then the doctor asked me if the woman I was with was my mum, I said no and she let out a huge sigh, at that point I started to panic. Then she dropped the bomb. I was 14 weeks pregnant!!! 14 weeks and 5 days to be exact!!! I went into shock, I couldn't breath and I just broke down. I'm 17! Anyway I made his mum take me back to college (she didnt know) and I had to pull him out of his biology lesson. I took him to the library and told him. He nearly passed out. Then he said the one thing I dreaded. "I think you need to have an abortion" I hated him. But I didnt know what to do, so I let him talk me into it. A week later I was in manchester lying on a hospital bed waiting to have an abortion.
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reader, love-him +, writes (28 February 2008):
 Hey babe i actualy agree with kay.kay.. i dont realy like the idea of an aboriton.. Your boyfriend told you what his opinions were on the situation and you chose to accept it. I know how hard it must be for you.. dealing with this.. you need to talk to somone who is professional, including a councilor etc. I wish you all the luck in the world .. feel free to mail me x x
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reader, enigmacode +, writes (23 February 2008):
You should not let him have all own way. Stand up to him.I went to the doctors to have an abortion 16 years back. Glad I did not cos I have a beautiful son I think the world of. Ask God to forgive you and don,t do it again. Theirs many couples roundthe world longing for a child as well.
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reader, deedee01 +, writes (20 February 2008):
I went through an abortion last year and it was the worst thing i have ever done i was in a diffrent situation than you i already had 3 year old twins and a 5 month old baby girl to my now husband. after i had done it i did blame my husband for not supporting me all i wanted him to say is that we could cope with another baby but he never did so i went ahead and done it. for the next few months i could not look at him and then one day it hit me nobady but myself could be not at balme or fault but responsible for what i did nobody held a gun to my head and made me do it i did it. I know if he pressured you that it must have been hard but it was always you choice and you choice alone. and i am sorry for you loss but you have to let it go i went out and bought a little bell with the name i had picked out for my unborn child and i keep it in a special place and when ever i feel down or upset i just take out the bell hold it tight and say a little pray for him or her. find somthing that will work for you but try and get rid of that anger or it will eat you up inside.
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reader, lushlass93 +, writes (19 February 2008):
 why did you let him talk you into this it was your decision aswell you nohe cant make all the decisions and yes you are oung but you had a choice because it was yours aswell you need to talk to him and tell him how you feel and you may end up breaking up over this and remember to allways use some protection like the pill good luck hun
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reader, confused...  +, writes (19 February 2008):
I don't see why you let him talk you into it, didn't you ever stop and think that there are millions of couples out there that want a child but can't... and here you are killing it and throwing it aside like garbage, not to be rude but don't you think ur bf just being selfish??
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reader, babewithbrains +, writes (19 February 2008):
 I personally think you made the right chice, I mean, look. The number of under-18s who became pregnant in England and Wales rose from 40,966 in 2001 to 41,868 in 2002. (BCC NEWS) and look - it ain't falling.You see, you've done great so far - made it through high school, got into college! And you see, what life would the baby have? You'd have to stop your education (which i'm sure you love) and your CV for the job you'd get:Math degree (or other)blah blah etc.Can't do evening coz I've got a screaming brat to look after and my parents are really angry with me and blame me.Great, huh? The babies dad would probably give you a bit of money, but he's at uni too! You would have a crap job when you could have done so much better!Well, I hope the abortion went ok and that you and your boyf/fiance(congratulations) are being more careful so you don't have to go through this again, poor angel!Try out different birth control methods and pills etc. if condoms are a nono. It's just not worth it, as I'm sure you've found out!Cheers and have a happy term at college and a happy marriage!Jelly
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2008): I really do feel for you. I was 17 when i had an abortion, but it was my decision. I was much too young to bring up a child, i couldnt even manage to see to myself at times. My bloke was the one i eventually married and had kids with but i was so happy that i had that abortion. Kids hold you down at that age and you have the rest of your life ahead of you to enjoy, not to be changing nappies at the age of 17. I know people say that you could have it and then have it adopted, but i just couldnt do that.
I guess you have had the abortion now. How are you? Have you had some after care from the doctors etc? What did your parents say and do?
I am sending you big hugs and you can get in touch with me if you want.
Dont be too hard on your bloke for pushing you into the abortion, he is young too and how would you of coped with a baby? Where would you of lived and what money would you have to live on? Grim prospects. I am sorry, if any anti abortionist are reading this, but i think you will look back on that day in the future and be glad that you did it. You have the rest of your lives ahead of you and you will have babies when the time in good and ready and you are both older and more mature.
take care
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