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writes:I'm so lonely, i dont have any friends in life and dont know how to meet anyone. im 22 and not at university or college and i work in such a small firm where most people are in their 40s or 50s so i cant meet anyone there.i lost touch with my friends a few years ago - i foolishly believed i didnt need them and let the friendships drift apart and now i am intensely lonely. i never leave the house other than to go to work, but i know i am a nice, fun girl because i have joined a few internet websites and forums and have no problems making friends there. in fact i am really popular on them. i just dont know how to meet anyone in my everyday life.I'm diagnosed co-dependant so its really tough for me and my life feels like it has no purpose like im just trudging along day to day with no direction or meaning. i cant really join any clubs or societies because i dont have anyone to join them with! and i live in such a small town that i think i know of most people my age and im really not likely to form friendships with any of them.any ideas?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for your help everyone. everything is a lot better now because i randomly had a little brain wave a few weeks back - dont know why i didnt think of it sooner really lol...i just got a new job. working in a nightclub in a nearby city. there are about 30 people who work there altogether and all in my age group and of course i meet a lot of people my age who come in as customers.
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reader, kraze  +, writes (12 September 2007):
hey i'm so sorry to hear abt dis u say dat u talk to ppl in ur small town don't they ever ask u out?i'm sure dey do i think u should go.or mayb u should jus go to the club by urself an sit mayb hav a drink or 2 but not to get drunk or not know where u r.i'm sure dat some guy well come up an talk to u but don't lead him on to fast u don't want him havin d wrong ideas abt u all.or ask some1 out!it up to u 2 hav friends an u said dat ur popular on d sites dat ur on so it should not b hard 4 u to make friend.ur shy i think an need to come over dat.or what abt if u go met 1 of ur friends from d site who is close to where u live an jus spend time awy from home.chick it's up to u.think abt ur live.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2007): Hi, I have done a similar thing, my mates have moved on and I dont see them as much as I should. What I did was start volunteering, I do it for a few hrs a week and we have fun nights out like a drink or bowling. its not all the time but its something to look forward to. We also have xmas partys and summer days out with the kids. I am also starting a welsh class a couple of evenings a week on my own, I think its a good way of meeting new people and actually learning something as well.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2007): You mention that you don't feel like your life has any purpose. Whats keepin you in your current town? Why not sell up and travel abroad for a while? You could work your away around a continent. Its a great way to meet new people, learn, and get confidence.
Or why not move to another town, you seem bored with your job, life and area, you don't have to stay. The world truly is your oyster.
People love to be asked out. Why not ask someone out for a coffee? You need to try, its difficult and scary but the worst that can happen is them saying no. No one is going to think you're desperate, its just a small outing.
Be best friends with yourself and be self assured. Confidence is such an attractive quality. Hang in there. You'll be fine.
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (11 September 2007):
 You don't need anyone else to join clubs or societies with, you join them to meet others. There aren't any clubs that I know of that require you to join in pairs, other than marriage councelling and scuba-diving (buddy-system). So, don't let that stop you. Try joining one town over if you need to see some new faces. And don't feel that you can't see your old friends, even if you haven't called in a while. Pick up the phone, they may be missing you too. You'll never know until you try. The best way to make new friends is to get involved with the things that you are really passionate about. I really enjoy seeing people who are totally involved with what they love, be it gardening or cross-country biking. It is infectious and draws people to you. So lose yourself in some of the things that you love. Volunteering is a great way to meet people too. You would be surprised at how much you get out of giving, and the people who volunteer are generous and have big hearts. You may find a few new friendships if you give some time to a worthy cause that you find interesting. Try a few new roads, even if you are a bit timid or think that they aren't exactly what you thought you would be interested in. You never know, they could be just what you were looking for (you can always quit if it's not your cup of tea). Hope these few ideas gave you a bit of help.
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