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anonymous
writes:Its been 2 and a half years he drink endlessy, accused me of being with other men, disrespects me,and make me feel worthless when he questions my love for him. I love him and only him with my whole heart, mind, and soul. The drinking brings about a change in our relationship that's not good and I'm tired of it. I know what I need to do and I have done it, I left. So why do I feel sooo bad.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2011): I have always found that it is harder to leave someone that you feel the need to help. You cared about him and took care of him, as if he was a child. You probably thought you could help his problem but you can't convince someone to change. He has to want to change himself.
It's always super hard in the beginning. I was in a situation similar before, in which I felt like he needed me. It was the hardest break up I've dealt with, but I am so glad that I've moved on and don't have to deal with being brought down anymore.
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reader, aaringurl  +, writes (13 April 2011):
That feeling of resentment must probably be because of the feelings that still lingers in your heart. Part of you wants to leave him, lead a better life and follow your dream. Yet, another part of you wants to stay, and still hopes to make things work out.
I suggest to not necessarily burn the bridge between you two. You probably needed the space to think things through, and to breath a little. Try to think a little bit of yourself, it's not wrong to be selfish sometimes. But if I were you, after I've brought some thought, and had a breather, you should remain friends with him, and help him get back on track. Try to be a good friend, not necessarily his special someone.
P.S. If you still can save the relationship, save it. Do what you think is best, what is good for both of you ^.^
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