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writes:I have been in a gay relationship for over 6yrs like any relationship it was going through the best phases of its life but I decided to move away from him cos of my job but touchwood most seems to have worked out well even when we decided to see each other once a fortnight travelling to each other alternatively. Now the twist was I am a Asian and was forced into a marriage and I went through it and balancing it well however I cant get him out of my head. Me and Missess are close to him as good friends but I always worry something would come out sooner and blast the whole issue. Just a day after Xmas I found out my bf had been going to sauna and crusing. Also getting Bjs from giglo’s and paying them for a BJ. I just couldn’t take it anymore and I told him I cant stand that and walked out on him just a day after Xmas. Since then we have been messaging to conclude the relationship and call it a day. He reckons if I can have sex with my misses why cant he go out and do wot he wants to do ..I don’t know I cant accept it and feel I should conclude the whole thing .. I m confused and totally lost ….Yours Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2010): i got married due to pressures from family .. I didnt have any other choice. I havent disrespected the girl ..always made her feel equal in life with everything in life ..Dont know when my BF started moving on, i felt as if u lost my best buddy, a good partner and an angel for me ..I feel all my friends were connected to him .. now I left lonely....I just camt move ...its too painful ...I just dont know wot to do ??
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (30 December 2010):
 I can actually see his point. It must have really hurt him when you got married. I am sure you didn't really have much choice but still it must have hurt him so he is doing what anyone would do...he is trying to move on.
I think it's a good thing for you to end the relationship. You are not openly gay (at least not to your family)and it would be unfair to your ex boyfriend, your family and your wife to live a double life...you can't live like that.
You need to let the guy go, unless you are prepared to come out fully and have a relationship with him. He deserves to move on...just like you have.
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reader, Nathan1  +, writes (30 December 2010):
My my, haven't you really gotten into a tangle. It would be very easy to place blame here. I suppose your boyfriend knew what he was taking on. The circumstances cant be easy for you both. Like yourself i have come out of a 6 year relationship which has ran its course. People change, their wants and needs also. Give it a break, give yourself a break away from this complicated lifestyle. You shouldn't give into pressure from family or religion to dictate your life. You've only one life to lead.
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