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writes:This one boy is driving me insane. I havnt been happy for over two months. It all started when he had a girlfriend and i had a boyfriend. We realized we were in love with each other and dumped the other people for eachother. Then he got back together with his girlfriend before we dated which left me heart broken. after months of waiting around for him we finally got together. i was the happiest i have ever been. During our relationship i found out he cheated on me with that same girl. i forgave him and we continued our relationship. I would get so jelous when i found out they hung out and i never went a day without thinking about how he cheated on me. I broke up with him and that same day he hooked up with his ex girlfriend and asked out one of my best friends. Him and my best friend went out for a few months and the whole time he has been telling me he loves me. Me and my friend hate each other now after they broke up. but after we where akwardly put in the same car together i told her everything he has been telling me and she told me everything he has been telling her while we were going out. I havnt talked to him in over a month and i have been avoiding talking to him. But im still so in love with him. I want him back more than anything in the world. as stupid as it might seem because i know all he is going to do is hurt me. with him im happier then ever, but i know he always ends up hurting me. but without him im miserable. I hate him so much for everything he has done to me (there is more) but im still so uncontrolbaly in love with him. i know i will never get over it. What should i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2009): Babe, I've been through more or less what you're going through and trust me, you DON'T need him. you will do far better and believe it or not - one day you will look back and realise that he was a nobody to you, because someone far better will come along. I know its hard to forget, you never really do - but what you need to do is try and get on with your life and accept that you are worth far more.Don't run back.. no matter what, because you will still be unhappy in the long run, get rid of him FOR GOOD and hurt for the time being. But in the long run you will be far better off without and a much happier person.Good luck with whatever decision you make x
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reader, QnsNotorious  +, writes (15 June 2009):
 look the reason he be coming back to you is because you keep taking him back. If you would say NO for the first time than he would realize he left lost one of the greatest girls there could be. As i read what you wrote he is a complete asswhole just like the dude i fell in love with also. Guess we both in the same situation so we both gotta leave the guy in the past and move on. i know its hard but you gotta try, im already there. You should have moved on the instant you realized what an asswhole he was. like come on playing you, now that you shouldnt take from no guy. its okay the first time, he deserved a second chance but come one you gave him to many chances thats not good. Build up yourself esteem dont let no nigga mess with your feelings. stand up for yourself. dont get hurt. trust no nigga fear no bitch*
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reader, love-struckxo  +, writes (9 June 2009):
 I know how you feel, when it's like you can't let go of that person. It seems like your whole world is falling apart without them, and you feel so deeply inlove with them.
But someday, you will look back and realize you weren't. Somebody will come along and show you what LOVE REALLY IS. If you let them.
You have to walk away, and yes it's going to hurt. Your probably going to cry - good byes are NEVER easy, but it's time you start looking out for yourself, make yourself your FIRST priority.
Stop being his door mat, and letting him walk all over you! It's time to claim back your dignity, and be strong for all us girls out there! Hanging on - makes you seem desperate.
Everyday you will miss him less, the feelings WILL start to fade, whether its a week from now or a month from now or a year from now. Everyday it will get easier and easier.
No matter how bad it hurts - NEVER let him know. He knows what buttons to push, and he will keep on pushing them..
Trust me, girl. Walk away and never look back.. the best advice anyone could ever give you.
Good luck
xx
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