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writes: I had been with this girl for 1 year and we broke up about three months ago. I am truly in love with her and want to spend the rest of my life with her. She still tells me she loves me sometimes and that she just isn't ready to come back to me yet but she has another boyfriend and sometimes just tells me to leave her alone because of him. What can I do to get her back? I know it's meant to be. Please help
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2006): Hello sweetheart,
You should not let go of that love if she says she loves you too. If it was one-sided then it would be worrying. But you also have to make sure that you give her her space, otherwise she might start to resent you. It awful but you have to be patient and let your loved one get it out of their system. She will admire you for it in the end. At the same time, don't sacrifice your happiness for hers. You go out and meet people, and be with them if you want to be with them, and carry on with your life. Then you are not waiting on her to do her thing whilst holding yourself back. If it is meant to be, you two will come together when the time is right.
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reader, Phoebe Halliwell  +, writes (14 April 2006):
 Hi,
First off, I'm glad you've found someone you can really feel for. Congrats! Next, don't give up on love. Ever. Do as she says. Don't look in her direction when she's with this boyfriend she's got at the minute. It could make him jealous and that just lights a whole load of fireworks. Stay calm. If it's meant to be, it'll sort itself out.
You can't ever do anything to convince someone to be with you, Mainly this is because it is their hearts' decision whether they should come back to you, not how many roses you give her or how mant times you get down on your knees and beg. It's something down inside that makes that choice. Something un-touchable. Anyways, Good Luck !
And Remember, don''t give up on love!
All the best
Phoebe xxx
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reader, Danielle934 +, writes (10 April 2006):
 I am curious to how old you are and how many girlfriends you have had before, because if you are young and/or fairly new to dating then this could be why it is so hard for you to get over her? If it is truly meant to be then it will happen, you just have to wait for it. If she is willing to be with someone else right now then she doesn’t love you like you deserve. There could be many reasons why she doesn’t want to be with you right now... Maybe she felt like her feelings for you were getting too strong and she got scared, or maybe she feels like she does not deserve you because she realized you love her more than she loves you. Whatever her reason is, the best thing for you to do is to give her space, and do not let her know how much you still care for her. Right now you could be appearing to be desperate to her which could repel you even more. Try playing hard to get, don’t contact her, you need to avoid her. If she goes a while without hearing from you then she may start to wonder about you more often. If she calls you then talk to her for a second (not even a few minuets) and let her know you are doing fine, NEVER talk about her new relationship, your old relationship, and never let her know you are single and waiting for her! Also if you talk to her, make sure you end the little chat, not her. Make up an excuse that you are too busy and will call her later, but then don’t call her. Sometimes people have an urge to want what they can’t have, and if you make it apparent to her that you are too busy for her, then maybe she will find herself wanting to be with you. A friend of mine treated her ex similar to this and her ex came back after 3 months. Then on the other hand I have a male friend who went through almost exactly what you are going through (except him and his girl went out for 5 years) and they never got back together, but 9 months after they broke up he found someone else who treats him much better than his ex who he thought for sure was meant to be. Good Luck!
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