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anonymous
writes:Ok this may be stupid but I think im falling in love. I don't know how it happened. One minute my thoughts were purely on why I was so afraid of everything that has been happening. I mean i've been really perceptive to everything my SO has been doing. I mean little things and amplifying stuff but I realized that I couldn't hold anything agonist her. At first I felt like I had low of a self esteem but then I realized that my thoughts were about weather she had the same feeling for me. It was really me seeing if she was in the same stage as I was in. I cross analysis everything to kingdom come and back just because I am worried about where shes at. Idk I think i've been myself in the relationship but it feels like everything going so fast and she always understanding about things. She may do questionable things that really feel like huge red flags (ie: using drinking as an excuse or something) but then when I confront her about it she admits it was a mistake.... Idk I feel like im starting to be the one who cares more and I know that its dangerous water. I think my mind has really be on me about this commitment. Should i be worried or what should I do?
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reader, CJH  +, writes (17 December 2010):
 You should stop worrying and enjoy the relationship!
Why does it matter who loves who the most? That's probably the surest way to mess things up. Love is about giving not receiving so just carry on as you are and be happy that you've found somebody you can love!
As for her using alcohol as an excuse, can you go a little further and give us some examples? Is she drinking a lot? What things does she blame on booze?
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