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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:I've found myself a really great guy. We met in a bit of a sketchy way, and it was completly by chance. I was ill one weekend and needed to kill some time, so I went on a chat site and started talking to him. We both shared a few similar interests, and I decided to give him my Facebook, because quite honestly I wanted to lurk him out a bit. As days turned into weeks I found myself talking to this boy every single day. He was amazing from the start, and even though a few things went wrong, we managed to put aside petty problems, and we both realised what kind of feelings we had developed for eachother. We've known eachother now for 5 months, and we speak each day. He lives in England, and I live in Canada... so not the best situation. To be honest I never thought I'd let myself be involved with someone who lives so far away, but I can't let this chance pass me by. He has a past I'm having a hard time dealing with, but that isn't what my question is about this time.I'd like to let myself really like this boy, but whenever I get close to someone, I always want to get out of the relationship. This is the first boyfriend I've had that I actually see a legitimate future with, and I know how much he deeply cares for me. So I want to know why I get so scared of how great it can be.. I feel like I should break up with him, go find another boy, and then the process will never end. I know I'm happy with him, I know I love him, so why am I so worried and obsessed with thinking things will never work out.I want to make it clear that I really do love him, and I know that someone might point out that if I did love him, why would I want to "look for someone else" but I think my problem goes deeper than finding someone else.. I don't want to think I'm afraid to get hurt, or to love, but maybe the commitment scares me? I'd like to know what you agony aunts think! Thanks in advance.
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reader, mizz.butterflies  +, writes (14 June 2010):
 I dont think ur scared of love. ur scared of the possibility that he wont be the same person when u guys meet. u just know him online.u can only know how he thinks.u cant know how he acts. u need to meet him.
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