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writes: I'm in love with a married man that I have been dating now for two months. we never slept together,but I'm planning on sleeping with him soon. I'm a little afraid because I think I may get hurt.I know the easy thing would be to run away now! but a part of me wants to know how it would feel to make love to him. i have never felt so torn in my life,Help!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2010): what are you torn about; having sex with a married man or you being hurt by the married man.
i will not tell you to stop because you have already decided to cheapen yourself as a side item for this married man. i have no sympathy for the likes of you since you care nothing about the sanctity of marriage and obviously married men is just your thing. so ge head and have sex with him, think yo are special, hear the lies and eat his words and then ...........send us another story of your broken heart.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2010): Yes, you will get hurt, because he will use you and leave you. Rarely do they leave their wives.
And speaking of hurt, imagine the incredible hurt and betrayal his WIFE will feel when and if she finds you "made love" to HER husband.
He's a louse for cheating.
"you are planning on sleeping with him soon." Why? He's MARRIED. Don't his wedding vows mean anything to him, or to you? Find a single man; there are lots of good ones out there.
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reader, Carrot2000 +, writes (1 July 2010):
 If you see there is a clear and present danger of you getting hurt, why would you even THINK about sleeping with this man? Sleeping with him will only intensify your feelings for him and make your life hell. How do you think you will feel when he gets out of bed with you and leaves you to go home to his wife? Are you prepared for that kind of agony.
At 30-35 years old, you should know better than to get involved with a married man. Wise up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2010): Don't do it! You will get hurt if you get involved. And think about his wife and family! I had an affair with a man and found out 9 months into it that he was married - it was crushing! He went back to his wife and family and I'm happy that he did cause I wouldn't ever want to break up a family. Just explain that he needs to make up his mind before you can move forward together.
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reader, lovesick26  +, writes (1 July 2010):
wake up call woman , being der an just out of 4yrs waisted on a married man who loved me to bits but couldn leave his wife bullshit , dont do it run as far away as possible becasue it aint worth it believe me , you just lose half or all ur frineds an your family will be disgusted if thay find out an your reputation will be ruined an finding another man after a relationship like this is almost impossible because any one who knows you think s your still with them on the sly an it simply doesnt work , so pack up ur expectations an get away from him , plenty of single men out der . i know you think i dont know wat i talking about cause he is different to mine but in the end of it all you'll be left wit the same conclusion . pls dont waist ur valuable time its not worth it .....
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reader, kitty-cat=] +, writes (1 July 2010):
![kitty-cat=] agony aunt](/avatars/4e276644-588c-43d2-bf37-fe35b92660b5.png) YOU think you'll get hurt? do you have any idea what marriage is? have you ever been to a wedding? when two people hopelessly in love with each other decide to stay together for the rest of their lives. ever seen that look of pure love in their eyes as she walks down the isle? basically these people said they don't want anyone else but each other until they die. do you see how big that is? and its not like your in love with each other your just going to have sex with him! he is a selfish man who doesn't see the damage hes causing or doesn't care. don't stoop down to his level and break a womens heart. have a fling with some random single guy if you must, you might actually get something out of it.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (1 July 2010):
 You think you're torn? Think of the ripping and tearing you're doing to the heart of this married woman by messing around with HER husband. Wise up Chickie.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (1 July 2010):
You would rather cheapen yourself, lose self respect and possibly assist in hurting a married women because of this selfish man, than find a nice single man who will actually love you? Read all the posts on here about women who have been used and abused by married man, who are basically laughing at them. He will be laughing his head off at you, because he knows he can use you and you'll take it. And do you know what the worst part is? After this, you'll be in more trouble than him. There will always be a woman out there who will take him on. But it is a well known fact that a mistress ends up with nothing. No female friends could trust you, because they'd think you'd try to steal boyfriends and husbands from them. No man would trust you, because you'd be up for cheating. Time and time again, women will fall for all the crap married men spew. And time and time again, it is always the woman who loses out. You will lose. This isn't just about being hurt, here. This is your life and your reputation that is on the line. People will judge very harshly for what you've doing, and no one will want to know you apart from all the sleazy married men who know they can use you. He doesn't love you, he doesn't' care about, and he never will. So quit with the married man and find a single man, or you'll be tainted and no one will care about you at all. Think reputation and self respect.
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