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writes: I need to know how I can possibly put my realationship back together. I know I messed it up between us because I was a jealous person who always acused him of something that he did not do, due to my insecurity. I really want to get him back but he will not even talk to me he says he wants nothing to do with me. I have made several attempts before but messed that up too. I am 6 months pregnant with his child and would like for us to come to a common ground and start over. What should I do?
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reader, vixsfix +, writes (23 March 2006):
 i completely agree, make sure that he knows that you have acknowledged your problems and that yyou are trying to do something about them,as for where the baby is concerned stay calm about the whole thing as stress will do it no good, if he is a decent enough guy then he won't comepletely disappear out of your life and at the end of the day you and he will be connected forever through your child, so keep he peace even if it means having to accept it is truely over. If things dnt work out with this guy then at least you have walked away from the relationship with a lot :
~ a child
~ an understanding of yourself
~ a head start on the rest of us on how not to be in a relationship!
Hope it all goes well for you and your baby x x x
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reader, sakic +, writes (30 September 2005):
i know excatly how u feel and i understand the current situation your in. just recently me and my gf of 2 years broke up because i was just like u . no affense lol . i knew she would never do anything to hurt me or our reationship but i still felt the need to be jealous and say somthing to her every time she spoke to another guy . i guess i was just so afraid of loosing what we had . anyways she went to a different university then me becuase of course selections .but we promised to talk every night and get an apartment together next year .i admitt the seperation was hard but i thaught we could get through it.then one night when i was really lonly i call her and she tells me she went out to lunch with 2 of her brothers guy friends and now she was hanging out with them and her brother. i knew then and i know now that she had no intentions of ever seeing these guys again but i felt the need to be jealous and when i did we broke up. ive called her numerous times but she wont take me back and she claims its over for ever between us . i know how hard it is and i know how u must feel and i feel so sorry for u ..my advice for u and will for myself is to ask him for another chance but on the condition that u will try to get over your jealousy and allow him to have his freedom. If u try this and he still doenst want you back .what more can u do ..and maybe your better of withou him
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reader, Rebecca Batchelor +, writes (29 September 2005):
 Try talking to him again and stress how you realise what you did wrong before and that you would like both of you to work together, to share a future together with your child.
Try to give him some explanations as too why you were so insecure and jealous. Was it to do with your past? Has anyone hurt you before? Allow him some understanding and insight into your previous behaviour.
Try writing or emailing him if he refuses to talk to you but if he still doesn't respond it may come to the time that you will have to accept that he really feels the relationship is over and you will need to move on. I know how hard this will feel but some things aren't meant to be and may have to be accepted.
You have his child on the way which is a permanent link to him which should not be abused but he should also wish to see and be with his child as well as provide for the baby.
Make him aware of his responsibilites and I wish you luck in trying to restore your relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2005): you know, Im going threw the same thing right now, but he dumped me for something that he was told, and Im begging him to give me another chance, though it should be the other way around right? But to your question...Maybe he just doesnt want a commitment of any kind, but he has one commitment that he can not out run by any means: he has a kid on the way and he will forever have that commitment as a parent the rest of his life, to you and the baby. You guys may not be together, but you will always have a commitment together bcuz you both made the baby...He cant out run his commitment in any way. He is hurt by all your accusations on him and its bcuz your insecure and thats y you accused him of so much, but you need to stop accusing and simply ask him, "are you doing this by chance...." etc.
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