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writes:How do I get over him??I am in love with a man who I know is just stringing me along! - We are not together as he already has a girlfriend - but he rings me from time to time(usually when he needs something - obviously to keep me keen)and I always melt when I hear from him!I know I am being treated badly by him as I don't think he intends giving up his partner but I can't stop thinking about him and crying whenever he says he will ring and doesn't!Is he worth forgetting about? I am trying to forget him but I simply can't - I've never had strong feelings like this before and feel I won't again if I cut ties with him!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2008): You say "if he does ring you'll act coldly" - DON'T answer his rings, no matter how many times. Go about your business as if he doesn't exist. Then you'll feel empowered and in control again.
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reader, pinkiewinkie  +, writes (7 November 2008):
find another guy you like it dosen't have to be a guy you thank is hot it can be someone you thank is cute and nice careing loveing and sweet
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reader, Anonny +, writes (7 November 2008):
Anonny is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for all your advice!! - I will try to ignore him or atleast act coldly towards him if he does ring! - I know he is wrong for me but I'm not getting any younger & I can't help having these strong feelings for him!!
Luckily we havn't got too intimate as yet although I have given him money before - so yes - he is taking me for a ride!!
I wish I just get over him!!
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reader, shiraz +, writes (7 November 2008):
hiyahh your going to have to notice that the more you let this carry on the more hes gong to take little bits of you away with him and it sounds to me hes taken enough as it is.
he doesnt deserve your time, your love or your future so let it go. i know its so easy to say but honestly next time he rings think of him as a person and what he does to you, thinking of all his faults. he uses you and has no feelings or genuine love for you so let him go before he takes it all. youve wasted your self on him for too long and you need to be the stronger one and move on to make your own future.
you shouldnt be waiting for him to ring! go out and have your life, hes living his aswell as taking most of yours. realise this and stop it. he cannot control you if you let him go. your hurting hun but you will love again! youll find that someone worthy cuz im not soppy or anythin like that im just honest- and i believe its out there for everyone, theres that someone and honestly hes not the one. i can say that and mean it without personally knowing either of you, that in itself tells you a lot.
i really hope you come out of this shinging and starting to become your own person and really living your life.
best o luck in YOUR future- make it for yourself none else.
i hope all goes well and you find that one you honestly desevre. xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2008): I feel for you, I'm in the same situation and have been for over 6 months. Now I have a boyfriend. Up until then I ignored and avoided him, and it made him half nuts. He just wants my attention cause he knows I wanted to have sex with him (thank God it didn't happen, then I'd really feel like a fool!), and now he's the loser cause my new boyfriend and I are intimate together, and this guy knows it. I STILL have to ignore and avoid him, and he's STILL wanting my attention (we all work at the same place).
You really need to do the same - ignore and avoid him, make him believe that he is out of your head and your life by distancing yourself from him as much as possible. Don't answer to ANYTHING from him or about him - EVEN IF he starts pursuing you even more. Believe me, I know how hard this is to do, but you HAVE to do it because it will give you back your power and control as well as confidence, dignity and self-respect which will help you move on - you'll see!!
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