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writes:me and my ex broke up about 3 months ago. I talked to him today and he said that the girl he was with is just a fill in and that he has a special place in his heart for me and that I should know he still loves me. I'm missing him like crazy but the fact that he got a new woman is kicking my butt. what should i do? I love him. I have 2 kids with him and another one due in october. please help me
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reader, OhGetReal +, writes (26 August 2010):
 I'm going to get a little clinical on you here. You are love addicted and this is not healthy for you.
The guy is a manipulative, irresponsible liar. He left his pregnant girlfriend or wife (which is it?) and two children behind. Then he has the nerve to rub it in your face that he has another woman, but you have a special place in his heart and she's not all that....that's called leaving a big gaping hole in the door so he can come back and use you again when this one wises up and kicks his ass to the curb.
You are love addicted because you can't get away from this guy who doesn't really love you. If he did he would be fighting for his family, not stringing you along while he's bedding some other woman.
I am sorry to say, in my book of life, he's a complete loser and you are well rid of him.
I hope you will seek some therapy to help you break away from your dependence on this on again off again relationship and from having kids with a man who can't committ. You owe it to your children to get yourself straightened out and strong on your own two feet, they need their mother to take care of herself and not allow even their father to abuse her trust in this way.
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reader, Lotsalove. +, writes (26 August 2010):
 Firstly unless he's leaving her to get back with you.. what good is it telling you that? of course he's going to have a 'special place for you in his heart' because your his ex, you have two children together and im guessing the 3rd is his too? He should of kept that to himself, because now you are going to dwell on it. Your going to be questioning 'Is he coming back to me?' 'Does he think about me?' 'Does he still love me?' It's not fair on you, you are pregnant, you are looking after you twos' children and he's playing mind games.
After saying that, He hasn't left his girlfriend for you and if it doesn't look like he is going to, you need to move on, however hard that may be. I'm not saying jump into another relationship, but just focus on your children and your own life. If someone new comes along, don't cross it out because your ex has said that to you. It's hard to completely get rid of an ex especially when you have children together, so you need to learn to see/speak to him as the childrens father and not as a hope of rekindling your romance.
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