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writes:Okay so I been having the biggest crush on this guy who might be so perfect for me. But the problem is I have done the chasing all this time always text him first, invite him out tried getting to know him. I see this going no where I see no sign of hope. I really felt for him but I know he just sees me as a friend. How do I really move on? If he is always around me and I can't avoid it.
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reader, OscarsMummyReturns  +, writes (15 February 2012):
i too am in the same situation its sooo frustrating i just want to shout 'i love you now come and kiss me you fool !'maybe you have to lay your feelings on the line - just once - then the cat is out of the bag and he can deal with it how he likes, you are always gonna be in someone elses hands which is soo annoying.. tell him - 'i know we are mates but i think you are really hot' maybe something out of the blue rather than moonlight & roses - then leave the ball in his court, you will always wonder if you dont say anything, men can be quite dim with these things - i say get it out there and leave the rest to him. If you are just going to be friends then atleast you stil have him in your life ?? I spent time with my ex after we split going to the pictures and things after a while i thought yep thats it we are just mates and i went on a few dates with someone else, my ex was gutted because he still loved me but didnt know how to tell me... prime example of how men need an autoque.. tell him light heartedly and leave it up to him
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reader, JAMR  +, writes (15 February 2012):
 Hi there!I am in the same situation. I'm in love with, basically, my best friend. and although we were seeing each other, he sees me as a friend. But, i see him as something more. We had a big discussion/argument about it on sunday. But we are still going to be friends... This is what I think you are going to have to do... If you want to move on, but you want to remain friends. well, you treat him like a friend then. Stop texting him all the time. unless you have something you actually want/need to talk about. don't call all the time.. again, for the same reasons. TREAT him like a friend. Think about how you treat your other friends and that is what you should do with him. Don't try to go out of your way or do special favours. That is NOT your job, you are not his girldfriend. You never know, maybe he'll miss you. I'm at least hoping my friend misses 'us' being 'together'. Bottom line, if he wants to be "a friend" then be a "friend". What I am having to do, for example is. I don't text him, unless he texts me (or if i really need to ask/tell him something) and i don't call him unless he calls me. I'm not going to try to hang out with him all the time anymore and i'm not going to keep my schedule open just because i'm hoping he will want to do something. and it's nice to help friends out when they need it, but no more special favours... that is what a girlfriend does. It isn't our role... AND... if he chases you after, then, maybe it was meant to be... and if he doesn't then don't beat yourself up from heartache. There are some things we can't control. "...accept your defeats, With your head up and your eyes open, With the grace of a woman, not the grief of a child" I hope that helps you. Take care :) You deserve a guy who compliments you... not compromises you. :)
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