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writes:I really hope and pray someone can please help me out. When I was young about 14 or so I was at a party and I met this guy we made out, then at one point we went outside and walked to a park and just talked. At that time he was a bit older so when he found out I was 14 he pretended like nothing ever happened. Recently he broke up with a long relationship that he had, specifically about a month ago. And he reached out to me and we talked for a full day. He hasn't texted me today. I don't know if I should even bother. What do I do do I text him ask him how his doing, or is it too early to even try a relationship knowing that he just recently got out of a long relationship. Please help. Thank you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOmgosh. I think my friend answered that question thinking she was logged into her account. How embarrassing! Well thank you everyone at this time were still texting. Definitely slow and getting to know each other a lot! Before another step.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (3 November 2013):
 I see you answered your own question, so not sure why you posted it on DC.
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So you made out with him, did you fake your age or your age never came across ? . If it's only a day that you guys talked and not yet, give it sometime. Don't read into things so soon. Let things happen if it happens then great. Dont push anything so fast. Because it seems like you want answers from him but give him time, just do what you do on regular bases and if he makes the move then his trying. And you can then as well. Don't be too available so suddenly.
You know what the right thing is - don't TRY and be anything but a friend, if you can't keep your emotions out of it, then you need to back off, unless.. you WANT to be his rebound.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2013): The most important thing is not to let your feelings get too far ahead of you.
It's never a good idea to try and start a new relationship with people who just broke up. Treat your feelings like a crush, and don't push too hard trying to get attached; or your next post may be about how you got hurt.
He needs a long period to get over his old relationship. He might even be actively messaging his ex, or she may still be trying to work things out. When people make up their minds they like someone, they don't really listen to advice to wait; even if they ask for advice. They usually have to find out the hard way.
Put your feelings on hold, and stay in the friend-zone. If your crush is uncontrollable; then you can go ahead and risk being a rebound girl. The odds are against your timing.
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reader, 11muds11  +, writes (3 November 2013):
I'm going to let you in on a little male secret. There are very few things sexier to a single man than a woman you meet when you're on the rebound, who's then still single and happy a few months later when you're ready to date. It's also a great time to get to know each other and to build a good relationship before you start to date.
As a guy, we know that most girls think about a guy they like a heck of a lot, and most guys actually love that. But here's the thing. Even a guy totally in love, he doesn't do the same. So if you haven't even starting dating yet, then it's normal that he wouldn't text you for a day.
And maybe he didn't text you for a good reason because he knows you'll just be a rebound girl. One month is way too early for anyone after a long relationship.
If you really like him, don't at all push him about talking to you everyday, but leave yourself open when he's ready to date again. It's ok if you're in his life, but give him a ton of space. Let him come after you..... when he's ready.
When he's ready, and you're the "it" girl, then good things will happen.
Good luck. Hope this helps.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (3 November 2013):
The best thing to do, if you like him, is to speak to him s a friend for now. I wouldn't speak to him too much, as you don't want to wind up as a rebound. But if you do like him, you do want to be there so he can sees you care. Don't put him under pressure, and also don't become the shoulder to cry on too often, as you also don't want to wind up totally in the friend zone.
hope it works out!
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reader, llifton +, writes (3 November 2013):
 Since he's just out of a long-term relationship, you would only be a rebound if he got with you right now or in the near future.
Just be his friend, if at all possible. Text him and ask to hang out. Be available if he needs to talk. But don't pressure him into anything or be too straightforward. If it's going to happen, it will happen.
He just heeds a friend right now and time to heal and you don't need to be a rebound. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSo you made out with him, did you fake your age or your age never came across ? . If it's only a day that you guys talked and not yet, give it sometime. Don't read into things so soon. Let things happen if it happens then great. Dont push anything so fast. Because it seems like you want answers from him but give him time, just do what you do on regular bases and if he makes the move then his trying. And you can then as well. Don't be too available so suddenly.
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