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writes:My boyfriend oogles other women, and even when it's totally obvious and I ask him right in the moment, he will deny it, get angry with me and call me a jealous, insecure women. Why will he not just own up to it?
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (6 July 2011):
 Men look at women so much that I think half the time they aren't actually aware they are doing it. Just tell him it makes you uncomfortable when you are out and about with him and maybe he'll just tone it down a bit. Of course you do realize he'll be agazing when you aren't with him, right? This is a "no biggie" for women who are comfortable in their own skins, but if you have some esteem issues maybe this is the ideal time to work on them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2011): All men ogle other women, what's the big deal? It's that thing of 'looking but not buying.'
I think you need to get over it and leave it, stop mentioning it. All men find this behaviour you are displying high-maintenence and yes, they will see you as insecure. I suggest you focus on something else when he does it, anything.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2011): I imagine he knows you don't like it, so he might be hoping if he denies it and tries to focus instead on your behavior, he can avoid blame. It is irritating when someone continues to lie about something you know to be true. But he does know he is doing it and it has nothing to do with you or your confidence.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (6 July 2011):
Exactly what female anon says at the bottom.
He won't own up because you continually corner him with this same question. If it bothers you that much, tell him you know he does it and that you want him to stop doing it in front of you. Just don't ask the same question over and over, because that's why people end up lying.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2011): Dear gal there is nothing we can do about it instead change and do the same to pinch his heart though u might not like to do it, i am facing this and i have vowed to leave him soon for the best cas it challenges my womanhood and embarassing at the same time to see your man and anotherwoman in flirterous eye contact.
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reader, Kalyani  +, writes (6 July 2011):
 Hey leave the worries if he look other women means you look some other mens he will ask you why tell him i dont see any other than you he ll understand his mistake
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2011): If you know he's doing it, why do you need him to own up?
If it bothers you, tell him so. If it doesn't then why corner him with questions?
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