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writes:Hey, i'm 14 and am going out with a lovely 17 year old. hes always nice to me, and makes an effort. weve been going out for 3 months, and i can tell that hes thinking about sex. as hes my first "real" boyfriend, im not that clued up about how guys think... i think that i would like to have sex with him, and that he honestly cares about me, and doesnt just want sex... but should i sleep with him?xxx Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2008): i dont think that you should cause when you give it up and he leaves right after you have sex its going to hurt i dont think that your ready cause if you were you wouldnt be on here asking for help im 15 and still a virgin my boyfriend is 16 and i wont date anyone a year older then me maybe you should try it
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2008): ok i am not going to be rude, but why in the world would a 17 year old date a 14 year old. listen he wants the sex more than you
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2008): I understand that you really thinks he cares about you but he dosen't. Girl you are 14 go with somebody your age. And you shouldn't even be thinking about sex thin about your grades something that make a diffrce in your life. And only thing he wants from you is your body. And when you get pregnat you are going to be looking stupid cause he ain't going to be there he gone be some body else having sex. Take this advice from girl to girl and I'm not trying to boss you around but dont do it. I love you like every sista out here and sista take this advice dont open your legs for him. Get a better man that dosen't want sex, somebody who well keep you in your grades and not in the bed. Get a man because I've been through excally what you are going through now and girl let me tell you it never works with these bald men out here that don't even care about us. I hope you make the smart desion cause remeber one thing I Love You!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2007): I don't think that's a good idea. Three months is not a long time and seriously boys at that age having raging hormones! If he really cares about you he'll wait. If he breaks up with you because of that then it's better that you didn't have sex with him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2007): Dont do this because if your 14 years old you could get realy sick well thats what i heard,and you might end up being pregnant and im sure you dont want to be pregnant at the age of 14.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2007): no u shouldnt cause your 2 young and all he really wants is sex so dont do it
please for your sake dont do it you will regret it beleive me
tonia moore
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2007): i think that you should ask him if he is thinking about sex then take it easy and tell him that you arnt quite ready for sex and hope he doesnt take it too hard
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2007): hey guys, its me, the poster!
i told my bf that i wanna take it slow and he was totally fine with it and said that he would wait till im ready :)
thanks everyone!
xxx
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reader, Supergirl +, writes (30 March 2007):
Hey chick!
I dated a 17 year old, he asked me out on my 15th birthday so i was more orless your age.
We were totally love struck and couldnt stand not being together and we went to different schools so all day at school we would text each other (cost a damn lot) lol.
we were quite serious, went to scotland to see our friends together once was awesome.
but towards the end of our relationship he wanted sex, i knew i wasnt ready and still thought of myself as a 14 year old girl, cos i was going just 14.
i said no and he said he was fine with it but then he started to not listen to me as much, when ever i was upset he would just say dont worry and then try and get me to do 'sexual things' with him which i didnt want...we arent together anymore i finshed with him because of it.
If he pushes you then do the same.
please, please, please dont sleep with him to make him happy, wait until YOUR ready and want the same.
If he has a problem with it...show him the door!
xxxx
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reader, Dos_Vinci  +, writes (26 March 2007):
 3 Months!? Me and my Fiancee waited 2 years. He's a bit older and that's okay but please wait at least a year.
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reader, finchy +, writes (26 March 2007):
 No, wait until you are legal age as your bf could get into a lot of trouble. Talk to him about it and ask him if he is willing to wait a while.. xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2007): I would advise not to because at the age of 17 their hormones are out of control. Even though this is your first "real" boyfriend, that is another reason not to. Also most teenage girls get pregnant on there first couple of times. This this way, at 17 he has no clue if he wants to marry you, so do not do it. I don't know your sexual behaviours, so if this is your first, please wait it out. You are awfully young, and having sex would mean nothing to you at this point. If he really likes you, continue to do other fun things, and if he tries, direct his attention away from that. If you notice that he becomes agitated, spends less time with you, comes up with excuses from time to time, then you'll no he's after one thing. Him being nice is probably a way to tap in to your sensitive side so that you can give it up. Try to be alone in places where it can happen. Trust me, just watch for his behaviour when you dont want sexual activities.
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